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Guys I really need some help here, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 9 months.

For the past couple of months, I just haven’t been feeling the connection I felt with her in the beginning, to be honest I really have no idea what happened to the feelings I had for her, it seems like they just kind of flew away for no reason. For the past couple of months I didn’t know if I was in love with her anymore, keep in mind she’s head over heels for me this whole time. It seems all she wants is to be physical because she can’t enough of me and she’s been putting pressure on me about moving out and marriage. After my internal battle of “am I in love with her or not” for a couple months, I finally came to the conclusion that I wasn’t and ended it, but bawled my eyes out the night it happened, and then had second thoughts, maybe I am in love with her, I’ve gotten all emotional whenever I thought about ending it for this reason before. I just don’t even know anymore and I’m having second thoughts, did I do the right thing. We broke up just a couple nights ago.

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theoratica offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Dude listen, these feelings aren’t always black and white in the beginning.. yes, you thought you weren’t in love you broke up, now you realized you may love her, tell her before it’s too late, tell her you sorted through your feelings and now you see clearly, etc… break up shouldn’t be the end of the world.. Just remember and make sure you are certain about your decision before you go to her because if you start feeling ‘out of love’ again you may hurt her and yourself. And tell her to take things slow too so she doesn’t scare you away and this way both of you have time with no pressure to see if there is anything more in the future.. the key is communication, communication, communication, good luck.

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rabbits offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 56 minutes after post)

You did the right thing, I had the same situation with someone I’d been going out with for a LONG time, the change was just so weird after I left her that for a while, I couldn’t help feeling like I’d made the wrong decision, that maybe I wanted her back, but I didn’t, and after just sticking it out for a while, I got used to it, and I’m damned glad I did break up with her.

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