Love help: My boyfriend of five months said he had a dream we got engaged.

This post left anonymously

My boyfriend of five months said he had a dream we got engaged.

I’m looking for some “Guy Knowledge.”
Does anyone believe this is more then a random dream- or a dream at all?
Was he testing the waters for my reaction?
Am I over analyzing the matter? (as I am known to do)
Since, he has also hinted we move in together- well my other friends believe he is hinting in that direction. We are going to look at a house to buy this evening. I was looking at houses for me to purchase and sent him the info on one I liked. When I told him my hesitation to buying a house on my own is the amount of work to maintain it, he said “I would like to help with it if thats ok with you. I believe if you see something you have fallen in love with…Go for it. Lets drive out there tomorrow after work” (meaning to see the house. So… Im just wondering, from a guys perspective, where my boyfriends head is at? Neither one of us have ever said “I love you” although we both text “(the heart symbol) U” all the time. I’m just confused and gun shy about making assumptions. I’m trying to be very careful with my words as I believe a lot of guys run from something “too easy” or over the top. I was recently burnt badly by my now ex-fiance of three years… hence my hesitation. Ok now that I have rambled, please help :)

This open post was written 2 months ago | V/U/S: 299, 7, 4 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0)

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (14)

Relationships, men, commitment, guys, Love, engagement, boys, marriage, move in together, dreams, women, girls, boyfriend, girlfriend (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (7)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen

Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

Dorian 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Don’t ask us, ask him - sit him down and tell him something along the lines of “I don’t want to freak you out, but you’ve been saying these things recently and I’d just like to know where your head’s at at the moment.” Make sure he knows it’s okay if he doesn’t want things to get serious just yet - you want to avoid making him feel like he’s being put on the spot. Personally I think he sounds like he’s not completely terrified by the thought of getting more serious, and he could be holding back because he knows you were burned by your ex. But that’s just what I think - the only way to find out for sure is to talk to him.

Help me with: Symptoms of concussion

littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

If your other boyfriend of 3 years burnt you, what makes you think that this guy of 5 months wouldn’t? Take your time. Don’r rush thing. And get the I love yous out of the way personally not through texting. Get a definite commitment (like marriage) and then proceed from there. Right now, you’re not even sure where this relationship is going. Have a heart to heart with your boyfriend and find out exactly where you stand in his life and let him know where he stands in your life. Don’t take uncertain steps or you might be burnt again or you might burn your boyfriend because you can also change your mind. Once you have the ring and the marriage and are totally committed to each other 1000%, then buy the house together.

Don’t put yourself at a dissadvantage just because you have hunches or hints as to what your boyfriend wants from you and what the future might hold for both of you.

Every single step you take now, because you were burnt in the past, must be take with caution and have your feet firmly planted on the ground.

Help me with: How to Get a Job

angelreadingsn 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

i think he’s ready to settle down

your lucky ;-) x

sweet_sunshine_smil #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

I had a very strong feeling that would be my answer. :)
I agree that the best way to know is to ask him. But like you said, Im concerned about “freaking him out” by assuming. He gave me a key to his home about two months ago. I have yet to give him one to mine. I tend to “appear” to be the slower paced and more reserved one in the relationship. Almost three months ago he took me to meet his parents who live out of state. His mother made it very clear to me that that was a very serious thing and I needed to understand that because I am the only woman he has brought “home” in over 11 years. Something still makes me question it all though.
Thank you for your input. It is greatly appreciated! :)

This account has been deactivated.

sweet_sunshine_smil #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

Littlenick: Thats is typically the way I think and feel. I plan on buying the house on my own either way. I’m just second guessing my self because it’s nice to think like the responce from:
anglereadingsn

Thank you all for your advice- it is very much greatly appreciated!!!

This account has been deactivated.

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Relationships, men, commitment, guys, Love, engagement, boys, marriage, move in together, dreams" 2 months ago.

Dorian 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (20 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Personally I’d suggest living with him for a while BEFORE you get married - living with someone means you really, REALLY get to know them, and it’s a good idea to know you can handle that before you go making any commitments you can’t easily back out of (it’s a lot easier to just kick him out than it is to get a divorce).

Help me with: Symptoms of concussion

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.

Love help: My boyfriend of five months said he had a dream we got engaged. - Help.com

My boyfriend of five months said he had a dream we got engaged.

Reciprocity (0)

Post Tags (14)

Replies (7)

Invite Others to Help

Help.com Homepage