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You need to put some distance and time from your ex. She cheated on you and you forgave her, but now she ended things. It’s not healthy that you keep on being reminded of someone who probably already has moved on for sure but wants to keep you in the wings just in case she gets lonely. Cut off all contact with her and move on to someone else if you can.

As far as doing drugs with your friends, you shouldn’t have done that. Your parents don’t trust you and are afraid for your safety and well being. Can you blame them? Abide by their wishes and just try to suck it up the best way you can. When things cool down or maybe they have forgotten about your doing the drugs a little bit, then you can get together with your friends again.

AS to the money that you lost, is it lost for sure? Can you take some kind of legal action to try to get it back? If they made you sign a contract and you are under 18, that contract is not valid. You should get your parents involved in that. Go to the court and get papers to sue this people to try to get your money back. In the lawsuit, you might even get your court costs and maybe attorney costs refunded to you. If it’s worth your time or effort to get the money, I would at a least or make myself a pest of those scammers until they gave you at least some money back. They can go to jail if they actually perpetrated a fraud on you. Don’t let them keep your money.

****, she cheated on you in the first week of being away at college? Why is she still calling you? That’s awful man, you deserve a whole load of better! There happen to be many women out there who aren’t total slags like that and who will be faithful to you. As an aside, it’s best that you don’t give her your time on the phone. After what she did to you you shouldn’t be accepting her calls!
Your first love is always very hard to get over, and maybe you’re thinking that you will never love again, or find somebody like her, and what happens if you lose her completely, will you find someone else? I can assure you with 100% confidence that there is ALWAYS someone else out there, not to mention someone who will be better for you. I thought the first time I lost someone that I was taking a major risk because what if I never loved again? But it happens all the time. And when you do find somebody, you’ll wonder why you ever loved your first in the first place ;)
As for the salvia (I swear every time I read that I think saliva…) your parents have every right to forbid you from seeing them I guess. When you live with your parents and you do drugs, you’ll get punished. I will do the same to my kids if I ever have any. You may think it sucks and you need your friends but you also should respect your parents decision. There’s nothing stopping you from talking to them over msn, or on the phone is there?

You can’t be good friends with an ex. Ever. Don’t even try it. It just sounds like she is being selfish and, like littlenick says, is just hoping to keep you hanging around in case she gets lonely and needs a crutch. Don’t be that crutch. If you ever did really love each other, you will never be able to be friends again. But that’s okay because you will meet new people and make new friends.

You need this girl as a friend like you need hemmorroids on your behind!

And I am telling you that you will never be able to move on unless you stop talking to her. I guarantee that your exes were never really serious, right? Hence you can still be ‘friends’. But if you were in love (or something like it) with this girl then all talking to her will do is give you heartache and unnecessary stress. Don’t do it man, talking from experience here. You don’t need her in your life and apparently neither does she so stop trying to hold onto something you will never have because you will just be digging a hole for yourself while she is out ‘moving on’ with other guys and not giving two sh*ts about how you feel. Listen to reason.

4 words: Kick the drugs aside.

Well do what you want but I would say you should drop her now like a hot brick. The girl sounds emotionally abusive. You should do yourself a favour and just not talk to her anymore. Put her in the past where she belongs, now, so you can start to move on because clearly you are not, even though you may be in denial about it.
Also, defending her on here won’t change anything and there is no point to it. It won’t change the fact that she did what she did, and it won’t change the fact that she ended it. Seriously, and in all sincerity, just end it now. Be a man about it and don’t let your ex walk all over you and flatter you with how much she ‘worries’ and ‘cares’ and leave her alone.
Or, you can keep talking to her and keep giving her the satisfaction of knowing that she can get away with cheating and dumping and still have you around. Friendship is about respect, right? Just another reason why you can’t be friends, because the girl doesn’t respect you worth a d*mn. The truth hurts, but you need to realize it and do the right thing for YOU.
If I were in your position, and my boyfriend cheated on me within a week of leaving, I would have never spoken to him again and I would probably have moved on by now when you are still hurting.

Look mate, just like Sprite said, do what you want to do. Like you said, you only came here to vent.

wow..thats crazy..i know you may not know me but we have alot in common…and all i can say is please do not give up ok? my ex- is always around me and it is truly painful…but there will be a moment when you have to move on…you cannot have someone in your life if they are still causing you internal pain even when yall are not together..when she calls one day you will have to make a decision to either pick up or not…you understand?

thats good…srry i was too late!! :(

That’s good to hear. Hope you’re doing well :)

:) thats good!!!!!!!!!!!