I desperately need some relationship advice…
So I’m a junior in college, and my boyfriend’s a senior. We’ve been together for two years, and we have a great relationship. He’s graduating college in the spring, and after graduation him and his dad are buying a business that he’s been working at awhile. He recently brought up to me that once he buys it, he’s going to be working pretty much nonstop. And so he was considering that we should break up, because we’ll never see eachother, so “what’s the point of being together if we never see eachother”. I couldn’t believe what he was saying- in my mind if you want something to work enough, you just make it work. I would still be in school for another year, but still.. it’s not impossible. We wouldn’t see eachother much, but it wouldn’t be NEVER. Maybe like once a week. And it may be really hard, but in the end it would be worth it, and we’d be that much stronger as a couple..right? Well I think so at least.
He said that he really doesn’t want to break up with me, and that if we did he’d just stay single. I mean I understand he wants to devote himself to the business, but to end a perfectly good relationship just because it might get hard just seems ridiculous to me. I just want to be there for him through all of it. I may not to be able to be there all the time, but it’s better than nothing. And it’s not like we live together as it is, we see eachother maybe about twice a week now.
Anyways, he finally agreed that we’d just wait until the time came, see what happens, then go from there. but I can’t get the thought out of my head that in 6 months, no matter how happy we are or how great things are with us, he’s going to make the decision, and I have no control over it whatsoever. I feel so helpless and hopeless.. and well I can’t really find the right words to describe how I feel. I’m not sure if there’s anything I can do, or say, to make the situation better. I just really want to make this work but I’m starting to feel like it’s just a lost cause…because when it comes down to it, it doesn’t really matter what I want.
Sorry this was so long, I tend to ramble. But if you read all of this- thank you, you’re awesome. I’m hoping someone can give me some kind of advice, because I REALLY need it right now.
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I desperately need some relationship advice…
So I’m a junior in college, and my boyfriend’s a senior. We’ve been together for two years, and we have a great relationship. He’s graduating college in the spring, and after graduation him and his dad are buying a business that he’s been working at awhile. He recently brought up to me that once he buys it, he’s going to be working pretty much nonstop. And so he was considering that we should break up, because we’ll never see eachother, so “what’s the point of being together if we never see eachother”. I couldn’t believe what he was saying- in my mind if you want something to work enough, you just make it work. We wouldn’t see eachother much, but it wouldn’t be NEVER. Maybe like once a week. And it may be really hard, but in the end it would be worth it, and we’d be that much stronger as a couple..right? Well I think so at least.
He said that he really doesn’t want to break up with me, and that if we did he’d just stay single. I mean I understand he wants to devote himself to the business, but to end a perfectly good relationship just because it might get hard just seems ridiculous to me. I just want to be there for him through all of it. I may not to be able to be there all the time, but it’s better than nothing. And it’s not like we live together as it is, we see eachother maybe about twice a week now.
Anyways, he finally agreed that we’d just wait until the time came, see what happens, then go from there. but I can’t get the thought out of my head that in 6 months, no matter how happy we are or how great things are with us, he’s going to make the decision, and I have no control over it whatsoever. I feel so helpless and hopeless.. and well I can’t really find the right words to describe how I feel. I’m not sure if there’s anything I can do, or say, to make the situation better. I just really want to make this work but I’m starting to feel like it’s just a lost cause…because when it comes down to it, it doesn’t really matter what I want.
Sorry this was so long, I tend to ramble. But if you read all of this- thank you, you’re awesome. I’m hoping someone can give me some kind of advice, because I REALLY need it right now.
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