Love help: should i tell a friend his gf has cheated on him? - Help.com

I’m sorry, your story above is a little confusing. The bottom line, it appears that what you KNOW is gossip. You know for SURE that she is cheating on him? How do you know this?

i know this because, this girl has gone missing when drunk alot with certain guys! and this girls best frind, and i mean best… , told me that she has cheated on her boyfrind because this girl told her she has! sory its confuzeing! basicly, im 95% sure myself that she has… is that enough?

Not really. Look, I don’t have an issue of you telling your friend. I do have an issue with people spreading gossip. What you can tell your friend is nothing more than what you told me. Remember you may very well be ruining a relationship and hurting several people in the process. Your loyalty to a friend is excellent and is to be commended but your personal integrity is at stake too. If you tell your friend he’s being cheated on, your integrity is on the line and you shouldn’t say anything like that unless you are 100% sure.

ok thanks! il just tell him what i know! i wasnt going to say i defintly know, jst what i heard! in my mind shes done it but he will have to decide that! thanks again

Exactly… he has to make his own life - with facts. And the best thing your loyalty as a friend, your personal integrity will stay in tact.

This has happened to me, except I knew the facts because the girl (who was my best friend) told me outright that she had cheated on him. I told the guy because he had a right to know and now I am dead to her.
Her ex appreciated it and couldn’t care less that I had told him because he was glad to be rid of her. Its a different situation I suppose.
But I know another girl who has cheated on her boyfriend (and she told me outright too) and she still hasn’t the guts to tell him. I’m not going to tell him this time, because I seriously don’t want to be known as even more of a *****, but thats life.

it’s true, when we stand in our own honor and integrity, there are some out there that will call us righteous and have nothing else to do with us. It takes a good deal of courage, because they will not understand; they are the ones shamed by their own behavior. I might be very angry (at first) if someone came to me and told me they had proof of my girlfriend cheating on me, but in time I would come to respect that person for speaking the truth. Speaking the truth can be very hurtful, but if it’s the truth it is not wrong. Just like we can wear our hearts on our sleeve, we can wear honor there too. The sad thing is honor that comes and goes as we change shirts, is like love that comes and goes as we change shirts… it’s nothing at all.

theres no problem with me falling out with the girl because we do not get on anyway! all i know is hes a desent guy and if it was me i would want to know! anyway i told him what i know last night….he said thanks alot, hes heard it before….but thanks anyway! i think hes going to finish with her! im glad he is, shes a horribal girl!

another honorable man is born!! Yahoooooo!!

Would you want to know ?
If yes tell him do it as a joke at 1st or just come out and say it like if you thought he would have known and then be like oh you didn’t know im sorry dude …etc.

If you wouldn’t want to know let it be the truths always comes out at the end …

Just know that your going to have to live with this… you can be this guys helper or … well you know…

Good luck dude hope everything works out for you !