I don’t know what to do..

Snar

I don’t know what to do..

I feel alone here even in a crowd, i’ve lost y motivation to be social. I just don’t care, there aren’t meaningful connections to be forged, just drunken hook ups and surface friendships.

Above all I miss my ex. So bad. And knowing that her new bf is visiting her for two weeks is more then I can bear, I got moments of such intense pain…I can’t even handle it. Last night I walked away from the party by myself, walked a long ways, and sat on the beach…alone…listening to the waves and looking at the stars. It was more peace then I could ever find in the middle of a crowded room.

I’m so tempted to call her. To call her and tell her to leave him, to come back to me. I know it wouldntbe right, nothings changed, she still lives so far away and now we have even less money for plane tickets. But my mind cant get off her, no-one is comparing. And it kills me to think about….it just kills me.

I’m slowly deconstructing, dissasembling, disintegrating. I’m losing myself and I just want to hole myself up…I don’t want to go out, I just want to draw the shades and hide.

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 minute after post)

And withdrawing from people and your friends and relations, is going to help you how?

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Snar 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
And withdrawing from people and your friends and relations, is going to help you how?

Beats me, my mind seems to want it. If I could follow the path that helped me most, I wouldnt be pining.

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Have you tried talking to other girls to get your mind off your ex?

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Snar 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
Have you tried talking to other girls to get your mind off your ex?

Yeah, I’ve tried more then talking, it just highlights the fact that such relationships are hollow to me.

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

It will be a while, but you have to keep on trying. Don’t give up.

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

All these little obstacles on your life are just challenges and you have to meet those challenges. Don’t think about giving up.

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uk123457678 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (41 minutes after post)

I know how you feel… lonliness is really sad, i feel lonely most of the time, since i was at school a few years ago… but you need to have hope and not to give in, try praying to God, as God says to tell His servants to call upon him, and he will answer their prayers (in chapter 2 of the Quran), this is what gives me hope.

Anyways what I want to wanted to say is DONT EVER give up socialising, and stuff like that, if though you may feel like it now… because thats the mistake I made a few years ago. I find it hard to communicate and talk to most people now. If I was you dont phone her, things happen for a reason, and maybe one day you will find someone who is better and more beutiful etc, even though it may not feel like that at the moment, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

If need be try counselling, it works for some and not for others.

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Snar 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

Jerry wrote:
This post is beautiful. It hauntingly poetically words the hardships that every male travel through at some point in time. Your feeling of isolation is your head getting a clear thought on things after coming up for a breath in the relationship.

Now that you can survey things, you’ve got no idea what you are wanting and the only thing that seems to stand out is the fact that you don’t have anyone to hold.
Humans need someone to fall back to that isn’t a partner. Some chase after God, or even self indulgence, but a solid friendship is worth more than any girlfriend. Ever.

No doubt you know plenty well how to quit thinking about the ex. Just stop trying to be so deep and psycho-analysing your sense of isolation. Just get back into living for a purpose and push through each day.

You’ll only experience what your attitudes pre-empt.

J.

Thankyou for understanding. I will try to stop thinking of her, but the one place your wrong is that I dont know how.

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Snar 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

annlovestars * wrote:
That will just get you in deeper into something that might be hard to get out of.
its a choice you make for life, a way of living.

everybody feels that they are alone sometimes, as the human race produced lots of morons and idiots.But still there are people worth out there, and once you found them,
you are glad you tried, because in the end we all need friends.

Lets hope so :)

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Snar 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (3 days, 20 hours after post)

I definitely do not want to be single.

I love the world, I love many things.

But I am a romantic. I need somebody to hold at the end of the day.

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