Ive been with my partner for almost 8 years as well
he was always having a go at me when I talked to anyone, his insecurities were very high even though I gave him no reason to think I would cheat.
One day I saw a friend of my family outside the supermarket, he told me his mum was trying to reach me so he was giving me her number, my partner got the wrong idea and cam over and started acting like a bear, you could tell he was doing the whole animal kingdom bit of puffing out his chest and making his territory known
It got to a point I was afraid to go anywhere with him because if someone talked to me I would feel very uneasy, he dragged me to a party last year and his distrust in me was very obvious, then it all happened, an engaged couple had noticed I was not interacting and came over and started dancing around me trying to get me involved, he saw this but his vision went straight to the guy, he didnt even notice the guys girlfriend was there as well, he started screaming how could I do this to him, I’d done nothing.
I got up and walked out with the intention of just walking home, I wasnt about to ague over it infront of a bunch of people.
well it so happened another guy was walking up the drivway and he saw me, turned to ask if I was ok and his girlfriend walked out from the party, even though i’d only just walked out myself and was a good meter away from her boyfriend she started screaming ‘whats going on, i know whats going on, you were accused of it inside as well’ then, I was laid flat out on the ground.
I had been faithful for all these years, but his distrust in me had lead to very serious consequences.
He refused to accept responsibility for the fact id been laid out so well that doctors thought something was broken (thank god it wasnt) as far as he sees it he didnt tell the girl to hit me.
After that, I was sick of being treated lik a second grade citizen and being punished for his insecurities, I lost the plot and soon after, I cheated, and I rubbed it in his face
now he doesnt treat me like im going to cheat on him because he knows full well, push me to far and I’m capable of anything
My point is, this is very serious, and it can have very serious effects on you, his obvious distrust could lead to not only you getting laid out by another girl who believes your going to come after your man because hey, if your boyfriend doesnt trust you then you must be like that, but other men could get their own impression that you are an easy target
You need counseling, he needs to see the effects hes having on you and your relationship, there is no point being with someone if you do not trust them, and if he doesnt trust you then why on earth is he with you.
I hope you get this sorted out, I understand how it feels to be treated like this, even though my situation was kinda reverse to yours, you cheated early, I cheated late
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