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How come, doing the good thing hurts so much more?


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How come, the doing the good thing hurts so much more?

Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

doing good things does not hurt. It should feel good to do good for others. Service is one of the cornerstones to a happy life.

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Can you explain a little more?

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pika offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

I like a guy, but he has a girlfriend & so he is happy & well… that makes me happy on the surface. But deep down, it hurts not being able to tell him I like him or just anything. :| I know I can’t have him, but it doesn’t stop it from hurting.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

I just was thinking about this, I am on the border of breaking it off with my gf and she is super emotional and I hate it when girls cry and I am feeling horrible about the whole situation and cant do what i want to. Im sorry but I cant help with your situation cause I have one of my own.

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Feelings are funny things. They get us all mixed up inside, tempt us to do things we wouldn’t dream of doing otherwise, make us feel sad when we know we should be happy… and then what do they do? Up, away and suddenly they are gone again! Sooo not fair eh?

That’s what you need to focus on though. These feelings will pass.

Right now, this guy isn’t available to you and you aren’t available to him. However.. out there somewhere is a match for you that you will like even more! And then you’ll be topsy-turvy again - only this time it will all be good, good, good!

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pika offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Oh, no worries. :) The best I can offer is that you sit her down, & tell her that for … maybe a week? You cool things down abit, say you need some thinking time or something because you’re not sure where you guys are heading. Then after a week to give her some time to get used to the idea of you two not being together, just finish it saying you want to be friends & that you still like her or something. :| Sure she might cry or whatever, but you can’t stay in a relationship you’re not happy in.

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pika offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Thank you mumstheword. :) I’m trying to focus on that, and I’m looking at pictures of people Zac Efron & saying ‘he’s not even that hot’ just to try and get him out of mind. XD But I’m just scared because he sits opposite me in my English Language class & I’m not sure what I’m going to be like. :| I may have to recite - in my head - “Zac Efron. Zac Efron. Zac Efron.” for 1 hour. XD

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xxhermione.93 offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (58 minutes after post)

well we allways do intence things to feel good :))

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