what kind of mom am i help: hi i am 21 year old and i have a four month old daughter and - Help.com

You may be suffering from depression which is not uncommon after having a baby. And yes, I felt that way after my first. Get out into the sunlight with friends. Make dates with other moms to go for walks or stuff like that.

I joined the moms group at my church - that helped me.

I definitely agree with cell.. sounds like post pardum. If possible go see a therapist, they will definitely help you through cognitive therapy and maybe prescribe you an anti-depressant. My sister went through a difficult time after she had her baby, she was put on Lexapro. It definitely helped a bit along with her weekly therapy sessions. good luck :-)

You know, you are NOT unusual. Many, many mothers experience what you are going through. And I have to say that I get a bit peeved with all the pressure that is out there from magazines, movies and such that tell us that motherhood is supposed to feel a certain way.. you’re supposed to be overwhelmed with gushy feelings.. you’re supposed to give up work.. you’re not supposed to miss being the person you were…you’re supposed to be superwoman and know how to handle every situation… bah humbug! Sure, some people do. But by NO means all!

We are all different.

Motherhood is a huge learning curve. Of course you won’t know what to do! Of course you will feel out of your depth at times! There’s no handbook that was written just for YOU and YOUR baby and YOUR experiences! It’s a lot of trial and error. Getting advice is being a good mother. Talking to people about how you feel is being a good mother. Acknowledging you don’t know how to deal with a situation is being a good mother.

Now, your baby is still tiny. It’s not that she doesn’t want you when she’s crying at all. She does. But she still has very strong instincts and can sense your feelings. She is probably sensing that you are nervous and tense and a bit emotional.. and that is leading her to feel the same way.

What you need to do is to tell your health care worker exactly how you feel and what you cannot cope with. There is no shame in that at all. Cell is absolutely right… many mothers suffer from postnatal problems including depression and confusion. This is due very often to an associated hormonal imbalance. Given that you had a difficult pregnancy, I’d say go back to your doctor and get him to check you over. He may be able to pinpoint a physical/chemical/hormonal problem which can be resolved. He will certainly be able to put you in touch with some proper support.

Don’t be afraid to reach out for that support. When you see how many other mums are in the same boat, you’ll find new friends and start wondering what you were worried about!

It’ll all be fine.

Try some relaxation therapies to help you and baby and don’t be afraid to just “chill” and ignore the non-essentials for a while.. you might find some ideas on baby relaxation and massage on line. Try youtube.

Everyone else has such good answers… my wife was like you say you are. The babies took away her freedom, and then she started complaining about how I loved the kids more than her and it is tough. Having cildren can ruin your body and your sanity I am glad to be a man. Joining a mommy group sounds like a really good idea.