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My Girlfriend Cheated on me and I want to forgive her.

I’ve been dating the girl of my dreams for over two years I thought I would ask her to marry me too. I have never met someone that makes me feel the way she does. We have been fighting recently, mostly stupid arguments that were pointless and didn’t last long. For a period of time I considered breaking up with her or taking a break. I realized that life without her was something I could not bare. She goes to college an hour away from me so I can really only see her on weekends. I talked to her one Friday afternoon she said don’t worry about coming down for the weekend because she had a lot of homework to do. She ended up going to a party, getting drunk, and making out with some guy who tried to sleep with her. She told me the next day and I said I would try to forgive her. She said that she loves me and it took a huge mistake for her to realize this. She even said at the beginning of our relationship “I would never ever cheat on you.” And I believed her. She said she did it because we were fighting and she was stressed and needed to drink and this guy just happened. I want to trust her and go back to the way things were but I’m feeling so much pain, anger, and a broken heart I don’t know what to do. It feels like a dark hole is in my chest reminding me of her infidelity. She said she would never do anything like this again and I want to believe this am I a fool or can we work past this?

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Murnzwo offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (23 minutes after post)

I say forget about her…I’ve been through almost the exact same situation and forgave her when she asked for it but she didn’t really want forgiveness. She kept seeing the douchebag anyways and the first time she blamed it on alcohol.

Sorry, I’m getting off topic. I would just move on, most girls these days are nothing but *****. Good luck with whatever choice you make man.

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funnyfreak offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (58 minutes after post)

i had a girlfriend of 7 months cheat on me, so i half way no what you mean. i dont think your a fool by any means, everyone messes up and sometimes people just make big mistakes. now im not saying jump back into where you guys were by any means. i think it will take a few long talks and promises to make this better, but if both your hearts are in the right place i know you can make it. if you truely love her and she loves you i know you can make it. talk to her about it, let her know how hurt you are, but also let her know your willing to try again but lay down the law. dont keel over and be to soft about this because it is a big thing, listen to what she has to say but make sure she listens to you also and i hope it all works out bro. ill be praying for you two :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

dude i dont know.my girl of 10 years and three kids just told me 3years ago she got drunk and sleep with my frind i new all my life.**** man i dont know what to think or do

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giov_m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 5 days ago (1 month after post)

women are really complex in what they feel towards us men. I think it took you a lot of courage, and love to forgive her. I know what you’ve gone man. I went through the same situation but it was not entirely lead to the sleeping with the other man.. Bad thing was I have to loose everything that i built.

Anyways, what I think is that you give her another chance. If she does it again, then its time to move on and find another woman who would respect you and care for you

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