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You’re not alone, besides the constant strive for perfection in your studying, what is going on in your life?

Hello again. I think you’re putting a bit too much attention to your grades…

Failure is inevitable; the sooner you accept that fact, the less you’ll be hurt by it. I’m saying that from experience.

How come? Is there someone you need to impress?

Don’t be ashamed, I would not call work, study & whenever you have the energy/time going out for a ride or run “nothing”

I know it’s depression that makes everything so hard, then you have your added stress from the fear of failing. It’s too simple to say “just let go” but remember this maybe a bad thing to think but it sometimes works: what will happen if you fail to achieve what you feel you need? Will the earth fall from below your feet? Will people stop loving & caring about you?

Do you feel like you can go back to your psychologist, or maybe try to find a new one?

I know what you mean, just when you think you’re getting somewhere.. and then it stops, you describe it so well in your other posts - the emptiness, the void.

I wish I had an easy way to fix it, 3 weeks is a long time (you also have an apointment on the 14th? *smiles*) It’s scary to call, but you can - and maybe they can move the apointment - grasp hold of as much help as you can, while you stil have the energy; don’t want to see you sink to the bottom, because you don’t have to.

A song, it’s called “Eastern Glow” I find it really calming http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NfjH9…

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hey man ^_^

chill you are focusing on your studies and everything around you too much, just let go… you sure like to be in control of everything, just let go… do your best and hek with the outcome at least you did ur best and that is what truly matters…

well you sound like you have an interesting live, work studying and sports, many ppl dont even have that…

the hell with the “chronic depression” you dont have it :D , so stop pretending like you do…

life is too short to waste it on grudge
go out , enjoy life

Quote from a someone I love (don’t know where it’s from originally)

We always work for a better tomorrow,
When tomorrow comes instead of enjoying we start thinking for a better tomorrow,
“Tomorrow never comes”
Live for today.

Hi there

You’ve got an anxiety problem. That anxiety is what is paralyzing you. It is making you second guess yourself. That makes you passive. When you are passive you feel you’ve lost control, you feel weak and pathetic. That makes you depressed.

So it all goes back to the anxiety. It sounds like you suffer from perfcectionism (something has no value unless it is perfect… including you). This may be because you got a lot of positive attention for doing well in the past, or perhaps you think you can win the positive attention from family and friends if you do well now.

They key thing here is to TAKE ACTION. ACTION is the only thing that will save you, because it is inaction and paralysis that feeds your anxiety and creates depression.

Your core focus should be to get the schoolwork done. Start doing things in drafts. Instead of doing it all at once, get one draft COMPLETELY FINISHED. Then put it aside. COme back to it later and fix it up. Do this with all your work. This well help reduce anxiety.

You also need to expand your social support network. You must spend positive time with other people who are succeeding in chasing their goals or who at least have good coping skills. Go to meetup.com and find something in your area. Join some study groups or something.

acknowledge God..Read his word (KJV) he saves, he changed my life.. he changed mine, and i almost did it.. But you have to look upon God, and want him.

being positive and bla bla bah is not gonna do anything, SEEK GOD, thats what changes

Anyway dear Crypticus, I guess you’r not alone today; did you change the appointment or are you waiting it out?

elgn2 wrote:
being positive and bla bla bah is not gonna do anything, SEEK GOD, thats what changes

I understand how it might help break the cycle of negative thinking but it’s Faith, you can’t just take make someone believe. You can take religion in your life, but will it erase the pain? It’s about the way you use your Faith whatever happens so “thinking positve and bla bla bah” is part of changing..