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i am a 30 year old indian who is well educated,actually a management graduate.

i was working in a MNC in another country for last 4 years. i had some manageable credit card debts and i was expecting a promotion in april 2009. so i took a personal loan from a bank to consolidate my liabilities. After that i got engaged to a girl who was working in India and having a good job. ofcourse the plan was that she will move to my country of residence. that was back in oct 2008. come recession and i lost my job and all the small savings i had i used them to stay in that country to look for another job but couldnt find one. that country has very strict financial laws. so i decided to come back to india but couldnt leave as i had this loan that needed to be cleared for emigration clearance. fearing worst i swiped all my old credit cards and settled the loan and flew back to india in april. i didnt have any money so i borrowed a little form my fiancee and some from my friend and started looking for a job india. i couldnt find the job and marriage came closer, its in october end. i borrowed more money from fiance to rent a place and furnish it so that we have a place to live after marriage. now i am getting calls from banks to settle the dues from that country and my fiancée isnt treating me well lately although she was supportive when all this started.
i am not getting the job, banks are troubling and threatening me, fiancee takes dig at me at each and every chance, my parents and friends expect me to get a job soon. added to this my parents and fiancee and friends dont know about the credit card problem.
i am fed up of this life and want to commit suicide before marriage. can u help.

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Friend, do not commit suicide. There is no problem you mentioned that cannot improve at some point in time. It is obvious that you are suffering and likely depressed, but this is a very normal reaction to your circumstances. Even if you lost everything, you were not born into this world to end your own life. If you endure your suffering with integrity, you will become a wiser man for your troubles. My goodwill and prayers for you is extended.

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