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hmmm dude 2 a dude! the worst thing i could say here is ur young and u have ur whole life ahead of u. and U do i know its like some advice from ur mum but u do and u and this girl may feel forever but ur move on mate if u really want 2.

army is a life style i nearly did it and did the whole work experience thing and couldnt take the whole orders thing, what im sayin is that r u sure u want 2 do this
? is that what u want 2 do? i thought i wanted 2 and now im studying a degree in photography wtf huh!

either way i know how u feel, how long have u been with this girl ??

4 now i would think and proper hard! until u make a decison, ur not lieing its a choice and ur thinking about it, thats all..

hope it goes well and remember its nt the end..;-)

If you don’t want to join, DON’T. The military is for people who want to be part of a brotherhood of rules, feel the adrenaline of threats on their life, and use deadly force to accomplish political goals regardless of whether they personally believe in those goals.

It’s a silly concept that the military protects people’s freedom and protects their rights. No, it’s the doctors and firefighters and police who protect people, it’s the lawyers and judges who protect rights, it’s the activists who protect the environment. What the military does is apply deadly force in foreign lands to fulfil the political objectives of a government.

Do not, for heaven’s sake, get confused about that.

If you don’t know what to do with your life, get yourself the book “What colour is your parachute?” Go to a career counsellor. Talk to your parents and all their friends and learn what they do. Do some job shadowing.

Humm… While I agree with what some of Linuxya has said I don’t think its inherintly wrong to view the military as defending core values on the international theater. I certainly would not rule it out and would not want to suggest that every military member joined simply to “use deadly force to accomplish political goals”.

There are plenty of upstanding reasons to join the military. Nonetheless you should not feel compelled to join, but rather should make an informed choice.

My grandfather served in World War II and frankly the ideals he spoke of were worth joining and fighting for. If this cause speaks to you in the same fashion then research it, at 16 you can join a cadet corps and get a sense of the conventions of military rule of law.

Cheers,

KMM

benhunt2 wrote:
either way i know how u feel, how long have u been with this girl ??

I’m not. I refuse to even try to be with her until I have this worked out.

linuxya wrote:
It’s a silly concept that the military protects people’s freedom and protects their rights.

I don’t think that the military protects our freedom and rights. I do know that they are fighting terrorists right now. If I don’t join and another terrorist attack happens I will feel as if it is partly my fault for not helping to stop them.

KMM wrote:
Nonetheless you should not feel compelled to join, but rather should make an informed choice.

I can’t help but feel compelled to join. I have done a lot of research on it. My family, on both sides, are military so I know a lot about it.

Join because you want to, not out of some strange fear that terrorist attacks are your fault if you don’t join the military.

Look, why do terrorists terrorize? Because their lives SUCK. They are poor, they are overeducated and underworked, they have been raised in a sucky environment of black and white thinking. Their lives are crap. So they lash out at other people to make themselves feel better. Whether or not YOU belong to the army has nothing to do with that.

There is no good and evil. You would do far more good finding ways to feed the hungry and heal the sick and educate the stupid rather than shooting the people who are hungry, ill and stupid and feel they have no other way out.