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I’ve been in love with my writing teacher for the past two years.

He doesn’t know it. I was a favorite student of his, but not nearly as close to him as I imagine myself to be. I haven’t even seen him for a year because I’ve graduated from HS–but I unmistakably think about him every day. I am not lying, that is the sad part. He is married, he is much older, he is my goddamn teacher… but how I do love him. I am obsessed. I have told no one. This secret burns inside of me so fiercely, to the point that I am in tears nearly every day contemplating the distance between us. I realize that what i love isn’t him, it’s this dream, this fantasy of him… but it is so current in all my thoughts that it scares me. How I want to break free and be my own person! I could tell no one I know, so I turn here. Is this some diagnosable disorder? How do I forget?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (33 minutes after post)

Put all your feelings and thoughts on a blog. That will help you exorcise those “love” demons so you can be free from them.

Writing all that stuff down sometimes helps you relieve yourself of all those feelings.

Bog it if you have to.

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2 months ago (53 minutes after post)

I have the exact same feelings for my math teacher!! It’s so weird but I think it’s just normal. I do agree that writing your feelings down will help but also you have to remember that he’s married and you don’t have a chance with him. Find someone that’s around your age and isn’t married, and who will except you for you!

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 2 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

remind your self that your “mr. right” will be just around the corner
but you have to forget mr. wrong first.
Your soul already knows who your soulmate is.
Be open to him.

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2 months ago (5 hours, 20 minutes after post)

I used to feel that way about my science teacher. She was good looking and even listened to the same music as me. I felt like I loved her too. I fantasized about being with her and everything. She’s married and about 9 years older than me. I was so scared of graduating because i didn’t know what I would do if I didnt see her everyday. I was afraid of how much I’d miss her and just not being able to get my “fix” of being around her. But then I met my current girlfriend and realized how silly it was. I soon lost the feelings i had for her. Granted, I still liked her and keep in touch to this day. But because I enjoy her and think she’s a good and fun person. Not because I still have feelings for her. Just know that it will pass and you will be free of these feelings. Focus on school, work, and friends. And soon enough you will meet someone, as i did, and you will be fine. You have your whole life ahead of you… Enjoy it.

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