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About a couple months ago I had join the army. Before I left I told my best friend good bye. Now I told her that I was going to college in south Carolina because I was afraid to tell her and didn’t want to cause her pain. After awhile I was writing letters to her telling how bad it was here and I put all my emotions in those letters all, but I still yet the army a secret. When I came back from basic training I finally told her the true. But I went all crazy while telling her. I was not myself that day. She said that I was scaring her and she felt threaten. She doesn’t want to speak with me. What should I do I don’t want to lose her. I am soo sorry lying to her and hurting her I need her in my life she is a friend that you are only able to get every 100 years. Please I am asking everyone out there to please help me I need her in my life, what should do, please help me.

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zeleto6 offline Verified User (3 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

You made a decision that came with consequences…
Now,,,you are looking for answers !!!
If you bought a horse,what do you need to expect ???
Start shoveling my friend !!!

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2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

It’s understandable that she might be hurt… fearing that you might be unpredictable like that again maybe? But to clarify.. I don’t think people loose other people. mostly people choose to leave. People don’t own each other to begin with, it’s just that one may may loose the pleasure of another person’s friendship. Im your case, nor do you need her in your life (whatever it may feel like) though certainly want her in your life. You did the army, and made a decision based on your values at the time (both of those take strength). You are strong, give yourself credit that you don’t “need” another person (that may make the other person feel suffocated and run away) if the friendship needs some distance for a while that may take strength on your part to respect it. I don’t know if this helps or applies to your context but I wish you well with your friend.

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zeleto6 offline Verified User (3 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Sounds like she is asking herself;;;
THE ARMY OR ME !!!

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jmercadoph offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (5 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Thank you all another part of it was that was the army had told me the true about my history and I found out about my adoption and couple months later I found out I had a 2 brothers and 3 sisters living in Mexico thAt I didn’t know about. I want to continue to join the army because I want to save them from my orginal father and bring them to US. My family hated me and didn’t want to past my burndens to her. I didn’t want the same effect like I did to my family. I want to protect her I want to be there for her I want to be there for her when she falls so I can catch her

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jmercadoph changed the tags on this post: they were "friendship, How to say sorry, Lost friendship" 1 month, 4 weeks ago.

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About a couple months ago I had join the army. Before I left I told my best friend good bye. Now I told her that I was going to college in south Carolina because I was afraid to tell her and didn’t want to cause her pain. After awhile I was writing letters to her telling how bad it was here and I put all my emotions in those letters all, but I still yet the army a secret. When I came back from basic training I finally told her the true. But I went all crazy while telling her. I was not myself that day. She said that I was scaring her and she felt threaten. She doesn’t want to speak with me. What should I do I don’t want to lose her. I am soo sorry lying to her and hurting her I need her in my life she is a friend that you are only able to get every 100 years. Please I am asking everyone out there to please help me I need her in my life, what should do, please help me.

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