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My boyfriend whos living long distance right now is going through a really tough time.

He just moved out, back to the old place he was living at in the city, and after a long and stressful few weeks hes gotten 2 jobs. He’s barely trained/worked about 3 days now, and his car (which is very old and unreliable) is pretty much dead. He has no money, and is pretty much scraping around with all that he has left and now this. He needs transportation to and from work. He cant take the bus bc the routes are out of the way and will pretty much end up costing him a lot more money (though this is probably his best choice). He’s staying with a friend and his gf and they only have one car themselves, and arent offering to help him out other than give him a ride to work.

He’s just so stressed out, and i could hear the stress and sadness in his voice which kills me. I dont have too much money, i cant help him out with an amount he needs..not that hes even asked. He’s thinking of selling his car for scraps, and some items of his for enough cash to buy a beat up car/some mode of transportation.

I just dont know what to do or say? I tell him that im here for him and to relax and that things will work out, but what more can i do? Are there any options for him? Im really really praying that things start going well for him because he genuinely is such a sincere, wonderful person…and i cant stand seeing him in this state :( Please pray for his troubles to be gone too you guys, thanks

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

hm, can ge trade his car in? what if he gets a bicycle, can he get back to and from on that? maybe he can ask around work and see if there’s anyone who lives his way who’ll be willing to give him rides ’till he gets enough $ to get another car. he can also try craigslist, sometimes there’s ppl who are open to things if you pay them or in exchange for something else. what about a loan? if he has credit cards maybe he can take $ out and buy a new car w/ that? good luck!

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Sodapop offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

thanks! but unfortunately, we’ve gone through all those options… his car is reallyyy old and beat up and needs extensive repair. He actually has a bike and tried riding it 1/4 there and said that its way too far, and physically difficult for him, he hasnt ridden it for a while. As for work, there are a lot of employees, and he just started 2 days ago and doesnt really know anyone slightly well enough to ask for a ride. He’s been on craigslist looking for a cheap car/vespa, something he can use temporarily. And hes not quite eligible for any loans atm either :P He’s just sooo stressed and it suckss!
I think he should find out how the buses work and take that, or ask someone for a ride home..a bit of this has to do with his pride too. Poor guy, god bless him

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shosta8 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

Can he move to live where you are? It doesn’t sound like there is much left for him where he is right now, that’s all.

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

well, he has a job(two,right?) atleast…i’d say that’s more than enough. all he has to do is wait it out ’till payday!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (23 hours, 31 minutes after post)

I live in LA…he’s not ready to make the move out here, a little intimidated of the lifestyle, although i think he’d be just fine. But yeah, i guess he was just really stressing the other night, but he got a relative to send him some money and hes gonna buy a scooter to get him to and from work untill hes saved enough for a reliable car lol. Hes really excited about it, and i’m happy for him.

But UGH. I hate when people get hella stressed and overemotional about things and start going crazy, bc im an empathetic person, and i get sucked into it and get stressed too. And like now hes fine, but it took a lot of energy out of me to console him. The same goes for a few other friends that i have. They drain me >:|.

Thanks a lot though guys, I really appreciate all of you on help.com, and the time and consideration you put out. I dont take it for granted :) thanks!

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