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I think you should tell him how you feel…If you have been together 6 months he shouldn’t get mad….I think you need to tell him how you feel and if it doesn’t change then I think you should leave him…You deserve better and someone who wants to be there and spend time with you and get you flowers and I think deep down you know what’s right…I hope that helped :)

It sounds to me that you bf is very selfish and only thinks of his pleasures. He needs a wake up call. Good men would never let their girls buy things while they are present. Maybe you need to give the relationship a rest and tell him to make up his mind in what he wants, you or his friends. If he was really in to you he would want to spend every minute with you. I think you said it best yourself: “You are filling in the gaps”.

Hi Dorky,

I replied to your post last night also - you just remind me a lot of myself, which is not such a bad thing because I’m finally getting it together with my boyfriend I think… we have both grown as people through the challenges we’ve set each other I think. I’ve found that arguments are terrible - I’m someone who hates conflict, but after a few I have discovered that given time things can improve. We’re also growing in the way that now when we argue it doesn’t automatically mean our relationship is over - he has gone from being someone who holds constant grudges that last for days to someone who can forgive, which has been wonderful.

As for wondering why he can’t be that boyfriend - I think you need to have a think of all the qualities you would like to see in a partner. Don’t worry if you don’t see them in your boyfriend right now, just make the list to know what you want - this will help you be more assertive as to whether this is the relationship you want or don’t want.

If you want to talk would you like to email me? Just reply here if you would and I’ll send over my email address. :)

Have you got the email address? I just revealed it to you over this site :)

Well, unless either of you is making substantially more money you should be paying for things equally. I understand you’re paying more right now, but I don’t think he should be paying for everything. Your boyfriend sounds very ego-centric and infantile, however. I personally would not waste my time explaining my feelings to someone if I know that the maturity level is just not there. Trust me, it’s not there. However there are plenty of guys who are not vain, who did not grow up in a household where teenagers are the main focus. They think of others. Keep an eye out for them.

If you plan on staying with this guy, please warn him that next Saturday is your anniversary. Expecting him to remember is unfair (if you think he won’t remember) and setting both of you up for failure.

Ok dorky, I can’t post my email address here, but feel free to reveal yours to me over the private thingo if you’d like to :) Otherwise I’ll certainly be here