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A little problem between me and my girlfriend…

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Me and my girlfriend are both 24, and just recently, Ive been feeling she isnt paying me enough attention….i mean, we talk everyday for a while, but when we do, all she talks about is her life and what fun she had with her circle of friends. It seems has a busy and fun life outside of our relationship, and even though i know she loves me, i feel im not being new or exciting enough.

I dont know what to do, i do have a few friends, but i dont hang out with them very much, and i find it ever so hard to make new ones. Theres little to do in my little town….i do enjoy reading new books and exploring knowledge but thats hardly something to talk to her about.

Basically, i just want her to WANT to here what i have to say, i want to feel appriciated and interesting. In any case, i know she still loves me, and this isnt anything to do with breaking up….

is there any serious suggestions?

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Jr. offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

Try being happy for her and join in when you have the chance. Try not to take it so seriously. Why don’t you hang with her and her friends? Also, don’t stop living your life with your friends. They are just as important.

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ameliaearthlin offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

You so gotta talk to her. That is the quickest way to remedy this.
Are u happy with how your life is?
Bottom line is she loves u just the way u r. This could b all in your head.
You both are still young and will still be developing social skills.
Being self centered isnt good.. Try saying.. thats great now Im going to tell u about my day!
Or get a pet.. They are always up to funny things and will give u something else to talk about.

Do more activities together. relationships do take effort and compraimise is vital for it to last

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

If you want to be appreciated, you need a girl who appreciates you for who you are and what you do. Either do what this girl appreciates or find a girl who already appreciates you for who you are.

All that being said, we ALL have to make an effort to keep finding new things to do or try on our own and with our significant others to keep the conversations interesting.

I’ve dated women who never asked me any questions. A sure sign they were so focused on themselves that I was better off with someone else. My girlfriend and I seem far more balanced. Sometimes she chatters. Sometimes I do. We both enjoy it and share the same values.

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Chaotica offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

hmmm….there are some useful points there….

but you see, i do enjoy her talking, and i am happy for her. the problem is, whenever i do say anything interesting, like i had a strange dream last night and i was talking to her about it, she never comments on it, its just kind of an ‘oh’ response. :(

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

What’s the mystery? Find a girl who finds you fascinating.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 38 minutes after post)

No one ever wants to hear your dreams lol… As they are not a reality.
I have 2 friends who are a couple… both love rocks.. yes rocks.. like stones. They are lucky they have found each other as not many people care to listen to stories about rocks.
Mayb she isnt the girl 4 u…
But before taking drastic action… Talk to her! At least give her the chance to change her ways.

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