Your parents know best and they are going to worry no end.
Are you planning to marry your boyfriend?
Why did your parents tell you why they do not support your going? Please don’t tell me what you you think is their response… I’m only interested in what they TOLD you.
Do your parents low opinion of your boyfriend?
They can’t give me a straight reason. And yes I do plan to marry him. They don’t support me because they don’t want me traveling by myself. When I have traveled by plane, by myself 3 times before, all of which longer than this trip.
And they love him. They took our entire family on a very expensive vacation over the summer and wouldn’t have if they didn’t.
Do you live in America? The bottom line if you do live in America… you don’t even need to ask your parents.
They probably think you’re going to sleep with him, if you haven’t already. That’s what I think they’re thinking.
I do however respect your desire to get their “blessing”. An open conversation, calm and mature needs to happen.
I live in america and so does he. His house is literally a mile away from mine. But we both to college, and he goes to one in a different state. I don’t want to a sneak around there back. i just wish they would consider this from a level field. They can’t give a single good reason. And they know i have slept him before. They pay for my birth control.
Interesting… they pay for your birth control (even now?) How much more do they pay for? Many parents feel that if they are still paying for everything, then you are still a child in their eyes. This is the hard part of many college students. You live a complete adult life except with your parents. This is what I mean having a calm and mature conversation with them. Be up front with your feelings…. but don’t talk about your feelings; don’t say, “mom and dad, I feel like…” Say almost anything other than that because your feelings don’t mean anything to them; your still a child and they know better. It’s your job to talk them calmly as an adult and let them know where you are coming from. It’s time for you to start setting your own boundaries that they can respect. I’m glad you don’t want to sneak around their back, that really would not serve you in this case.
Your free white and 21 do what u want. None of these could be true other than you are free. If it is your money I don’t understand why you would ask permission from anyone. The free white and 21 came from an old man that was giving me advice when I was 18. I thought it was funny and meaningful, that old man was telling me do what u want, ur a grown man, but you are responcible for your actions.
Yeah I feel that still feel as though they own me because they pay for my education. And that is their biggest treat is to take that away. It is just extremely frustrating.
Laxgurl080… I am in the exact same situation that you are (hence why i went to this site to seek advice). Except, I want to drive to see my boyfriend and I am taking my best friend, who is considered family to my parents. I mean, I know that telling you my situation isn’t neccessarily advice, however, I hope it helps to know that you’re not alone.
I think from a parents perspective, since they are paying for your schooling, they don’t want to see anything get in the way of your education. They are clearly aware that a love relationship could do just that. They want to see you on your own, before you enter right into a living relationship with a guy (even if they love the guy, they want you to wait at least till you graduate with your degree). They hold the purse strings and that is a heavy threat, but also an unreasonable one. You could do school all by yourself, and go into debt with student loans… you could get a job to support your living arrangements. You can talk to them about all this, it just depends how much you want to see this guy and how much you are willing to pay for it.
youre in college, who cares what they say. do what you want, its your life.
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