pregnancy help: Hello, I am 23 years old and just found out im pregnant.

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Hello, I am 23 years old and just found out im pregnant.

My boyfriend is happy about it but he has 3 kids already. I live with my mom and my job is not stable. My bf is 26 and currently has no job. I don’t know how to tell my mom i am pregnant. We are very close and i really want to tell her but i just can’t!! At the moment my oldest sis is on her 3rd child. I know i can take care of my baby because i raised my nephews and niece. But i really need help with how to tell my mom!! PLEASE HELP!!!!

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zeleto6 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Put your heart in it,,,be honest,,,and hope for the best !!!

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R.A.M 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Congrats!
Sorry, Ive never been is such a situation but Im guessing the best way is to just tell her.
Try doing it in an excited way so that she too feeds of your excitement and the first thoughts are more of happiness than doubt of wheter this is the right thing…

Dr. Ralph 70 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Just tell her. How are you going to take care of a baby if your boyfriend has no job? When you give birth who will be working to provide for the child, your mom? Doesn’t sound like a very good plan and how does your boyfriend support his other three children?

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tydi2hotti #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

No she may help support the baby. But i will support my own child. And he’s working on getting a job. He’s in school so he is not completely a bomb. But hes working on the job situation. Im only 5 weeks so we have time. And he does (legal) things to get money so he does have money. Yea its not a good situation but Im a firm believer in GOD and through him all things are possible. I just don’t want to see the disappointment on my mom’s face tho!

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zeleto6 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Hopefully your parents can carry the load,,,until the father or mother
Can get with the program !!!
I’m taking care of my grand-babies !!!

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Dr. Ralph 70 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Good luck with that one zeleto… I have three grandbabies and they keep trying to come back home but it’s not happening around here. I still have three of my own.

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zeleto6 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

My grand-babies do not live with me !!!
But i do make sure they all are,,,well-to-do !!!

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Dr. Ralph 70 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 33 minutes after post)

Oh okay, I guess I take care of mine too now that you mention it.

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zeleto6 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 35 minutes after post)

That’s what papa’s and nana’s are for !!!

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 50 minutes after post)

I would say to my mom, I love you and now I need you and your support more then ever. Then tell her how much her grand baby will need her. The sooner you tell her the better for all of you. Now there is a little person inside of you that needs all of you to enbrace him/her. Good luck to you & your baby!!

m4r147 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 48 minutes after post)

just tell her
i mean she’ll probably be happy that shes having another grandkid

And good luck to you!

courtybubble 183 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (16 hours, 35 minutes after post)

can you really take care of a baby? are you financially able to provide for the child? even when you have to stop working to care for it?
do you have a place to live which is suitable to raise a child? are you willing to give the next 18 years of your life over to raising this child?
“papa and nana” should not be the fall back, as zeleto so ignorantly put it. this is your child, not your mothers, therefore YOU should raise it if you decide to keep it.
If you cannot provide for it, then do not have it. simple as that.

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courtybubble 183 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (16 hours, 36 minutes after post)

gah, hit enter too soon.

youll need your mothers support in this situation, whatever you decide to do.
just tell her. shes gonna find out sooner or later isnt she. sooner will be better.

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