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what do you perceive as ‘the end’?

Well, the end of my life, whenever that may be.

What if some people experience a certain reality longer than others? And, I’m not only worrying about humankind, there are also some personal issues that sit heavy on my heart. I know for a fact those issues won’t go away for some time, and it’s something I can’t ‘make’ go away.

And I already said I didn’t believe in suicide. I’m not thinking of killing myself, that would be too cowardly, even more so than posting my problem on a public website for everyone to see, but I’d like to see what people say.

And you prove my point too, you’re telling me to be selfish and only think of myself and if I want to kill myself to get it over with. It’s people like you that make me feel this way.

By the way, the reason the whole world is going to hell is because too many people think like you.

Dear Living,
I very often have felt the way you do. I have a condition that makes me think the worst and prevents me from seeing the good in the world, myself and humankind. I got help several years ago and now, though I sometimes feel as you do today, most days now I can find some beauty in the world. To keep thinking truthfully I try to get sunshine everyday, take a prescribed antidepressant and go to talk to a professional therapist once a week. And I try to remember that the bleak feelings always pass as long as I follow this treatment plan. It may not seem possible to you in this moment, but if you stay alive, you will sometime look back on your total past including this moment and know that you survived. Survival is itself a worthwhile accomplishment. I try to stay alive for this day only, because I can only learn from the past and my future depends only on what I do today. Please call the number above and get some help. You may find that you have depression like I do. Believe it or not, a diagnosis of depression is good news, because there is a great deal that can be done to alleviate your pain and help you live a more comfortable existence. Just for now, call the 800 number and ask for help. Its not just for the suicidal, but for anyone who ever feels depressed.

mdmora wrote:
You’re simply answering you own question.
You don’t see any point of living… yet you don’t believe in suicide.

Face the facts and DEAL with reality like everyone else who choses to see the end through.

Its people like YOU who pollute the internet with ******** like this when people have real problems

Youre just looking for someone to tell you everythings gonna be okay when we all know that no one has any ******* idea whats going to happen to humankind or the world

so you can sit in front of ur computer and complain and beg for a solution to an endless problem or you can just move on.

we all have problems, what separates us is how we choose to deal with them.

:P I didn’t know the internet could be polluted.
And I’m sorry, I didn’t realize this HELP website was so exclusive. I’ll be sure to check what kind of questions are allowed on here next time. Maybe if I have a question about a cooking recipe I could get help here then.

And no, I don’t know what’s going to happen with the world or humanity, and I don’t expect anyone to tell me, that wasn’t my question. And I also don’t consider this begging or complaining, but my English is probably off. All I asked for was someone to talk to, someone that maybe shares the same thoughts.

Everything you told me I already knew. I don’t know what you have been through, but judging from the way you type, you need to relax… using profanity will not make me understand or agree anymore that if you had typed it normally.

Lastly, I have tried to move on, that’s why I don’t believe in suicide or self-harm anymore. It’s just that some things still bothered me, and again, all I wanted is to maybe talk to someone who felt the same way, that’s all.

In any case, thanks for you time.

animamayhem wrote:
Dear Living,
I very often have felt the way you do. I have a condition that makes me think the worst and prevents me from seeing the good in the world, myself and humankind. I got help several years ago and now, though I sometimes feel as you do today, most days now I can find some beauty in the world. To keep thinking truthfully I try to get sunshine everyday, take a prescribed antidepressant and go to talk to a professional therapist once a week. And I try to remember that the bleak feelings always pass as long as I follow this treatment plan. It may not seem possible to you in this moment, but if you stay alive, you will sometime look back on your total past including this moment and know that you survived. Survival is itself a worthwhile accomplishment. I try to stay alive for this day only, because I can only learn from the past and my future depends only on what I do today. Please call the number above and get some help. You may find that you have depression like I do. Believe it or not, a diagnosis of depression is good news, because there is a great deal that can be done to alleviate your pain and help you live a more comfortable existence. Just for now, call the 800 number and ask for help. Its not just for the suicidal, but for anyone who ever feels depressed.

Thank you.

“What if some people experience a certain reality longer than others?”PTRSZ
I think you are right, some people do experience the world differently. I know that if I listen to negative people and dwell on my own negative thoughts I get down worse and faster than others. So I only take advice from kind and understanding people, who have been where I am and know how to get better. I think differently, because my brain chemistry is different.

Anonymous wrote:
I think you are right, some people do experience the world differently. I know that if I listen to negative people and dwell on my own negative thoughts I get down worse and faster than others. So I only take advice from kind and understanding people, who have been where I am and know how to get better. I think differently, because my brain chemistry is different.

Exactly! If someone is negative, it explodes inside me but ten times worse. I end up carrying that feeling around all day. Some people aren’t bothered by that at all, but like you said also, not everyone is the same. That’s why some people can deal with bigger ‘problems’ and others break down.

It’s kind of amazing when you think about it, that medical science can help with something that was once generally thought to be just a personal weakness. I don’t think the medication I take is a perfect solution, but it really does help. I just wish that my relatives that also had this condition could have benefited from antidepressant’s. I hope you have the courage to seek your own solution from every possible angle and know that you don’t need to feel so bad. Poetry, writing, music art of any sort can help especially if you are always reaching for joy and not dwelling on what you personally have no power over. Focusing on the things I can change, like my own attitude and my brain chemistry can help me get things done too. I like to feel like I am doing my part to be a part of the solution. Your question helped me feel like I had something to offer and as I wrote to you, I realized that helping others is part of what makes me feel better. You could say that your question helped me have a better day, though I would never wish depression on anyone. So in a strange way I am grateful that you you spoke up and replyed to me.

Hi,

I think it is a positive active step to share your distressing thoughts and feelings on the internet. I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling so low.

I work in mental health, helping people to recover from depression, anxiety and other psychological problems. These problems are incredibly common, most of us will experience such a problem ourselves or through a close loved one at some point in our lives. I would like to strongly reassure you that something can be done to change the way you feel for the better.

What country do you live in? I live in the UK and can tell you of where to go to get help in private. I am not sure of the exact nature of your problems, but whatever the reasons for you feeling low, seeking help from specialists (you can get this for free in the UK) and following their recommendations really really works.

If you don’t live in the UK, there is plenty of helpful information on the internet you can access for free. Such as:

http://www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/leaflets/De…

Also:

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resou…

There are also a number of excellent books I could recommend. Please let me know if you are interested.

If you are having thoughts of suicide I strongly suggest you talk to someone. Do you have any friends or family you can confide in? The Samaritans are a confidential service you can talk to if you don’t want to talk to anyone you know.

www.samaritans.org

I also suggest you go to your doctor and explain how you’ve been feeling ( I appreciate you may have already done this) and more importantly, the treatment options available to you.

Please know that you do not have to feel this way forever.

Wishing you all the best x

greedy wrote:
Hi,

I think it is a positive active step to share your distressing thoughts and feelings on the internet. I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling so low.
…
Please know that you do not have to feel this way forever.

Wishing you all the best x

Thank you. I haven’t spoken to a doctor, but I will try to raise the courage to.
I will also check out the websites you recommended. I live in Holland.
I think I’d rather talk to someone than read a book about this kind of subject, because I feel it might depress me even further to read about it.

But I will seek help now… Thank you.

I think mdmora was spot on with one of her posts above. It’s harsh, but it’s true. The truth is we ALL think about this at some point or another. Of course we do, since our existence is all we know. What mdmora and I seem to agree on is the fact that dwelling on these thoughts and writhing in so much self-pity does NOTHING. Poor us, we’re humans, we all die someday. That is the truth. You either are lucky enough to live till a hundred, or you have an accident, get shot by a thug in a corner store robbery, contract cancer. The fact is, life is extremely fragile for everybody and everything in existence. This is why I HATE it when some people take it for granted and end it (even though obviously, some people can’t help it, their brains are simply wired this way.) We all face the same ordeal. Life is life. What is important is WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. You can decide to live your life constantly worrying and being all morose and depressed about it all, or you can say, hey, you know, I have one life, I should enjoy it. Don’t just survive, but LIVE it. Thrive. That’s the key. We humans have evolved enough to be aware of our existence, which iss both a blessing and a curse, like I said depending on how you take it. I personally view it as a blessing though I have no spiritual or religious beliefs. I think that it’s amazing how far this planet and our species has come. How rare we are. Some view our existence as minuscule and not amazing, but I love the wonders of science and the beauty of the world around us. I look at the stars at night and I think, you know, this is pretty sweet. It may not last forever, but d*mn it while I’m here I’m going to make the most of it. :)

its a phase…try to have fun