my friend told me she is loosing her baby and i said oh dear and carried on talking about me. - Help.com

time will heal any injures…unfortunately there’s nothing u can do… :(
sorry,i know u are too sad 2 be asked this…but what does “how 2 make it up 2 her” mean!?!?again sorry 4 asking…

just say “even though i have no idea what you’re going through i want to be there for you in whatever way i can.” she’ll either take it from there in asking for help/venting, or she wont say much of anything and you can go on doing whatever it is that you all usually do. either way she’ll appreciate your openness

it can be hard to figure out what to say when someone telly you som ebad new. Just be there for her and allow her to talk about her feelings about the subject. You don’t need to offer any advice if you don’t know what to say. Sometimes a simple “I’m sorry” does the trick

did i get right!?i mean ur friend was pregnant,right?!

k so she’s preagnant and i’m not sure if ‘loosing the baby’ means she’s getting it aborted or if it’s something like misscarrige and she has to get it removed.

anita12345678 wrote:
she had pains and her stomach got really large so i don’t know how many months pregnant she was. the dr sent her for a scan and there was no heart beat. i’m not sure what treatment they gave her. she said she had no idea she was pregnant. she has a lot of fertility problems and misses periods all the time. she told me a few months ago that he would love another baby but didn’t think it was possible due to her health. she only has the one 10 year old child that she adores, it’s such a shame, she’s a great mum.

i just can pray 4 her….

Yeah she is in so much pain right now she may not worry about your response. Just tell her you are there for her if she needs help or someone to talk to and you were so shocked you didn’t know how to respond when she told you she was losing her child. She needs friends close by. You can’t make it worse just open up the conversation and see if she wants to talk about it or not.

Offten after a misscariage drs want to make sure there’s nothing left inside that could cause infection-sometimes it is hard to know what to say when someone is hurting-and we fear accidently making things worse. This is just a suggestion-how about asking your friend what would be helpful? There are many things that could potentualy help-ie-fixing a dinner she can easily reheat for her family,offering to watch her 10yr old,when you can, so she can rest,running eronds for her, helping with house chores, lending an ear if she wants to talk, or just being with her-even if you don’t talk-can be supportive. Asking your friend what would be most helpful,to her can alieveiate some of the anxiety of not knowing how to help. take care-Eve

Depending on how far long she is, they may do a DNC, or she may be induced and have to deliver the child. hopefully the latter doesnt happen, a friend of mine had to do that with twins an it was horrific, she went through an entire labour knowing her babies were going to come out dead.
all you can do is support her. tell her you dont know exactly what shes going through, but you are there for her, and if she needs to talk, vent, or cry, then you are totally willing to be that shoulder.
just let her know shes not alone.
help her out practically as much as you can. babysit, make her cassaroles or meals, maybe do some house work for her-just take the load off while she grieves.