Love help: Who is acting unfair? - Help.com

Oh boy, that sounds like a major one. Your lady sounds like she was in insecure mode. Do you love her? If you do, you should tell her that, and also tell her that you don’t like her when she is testing you and all in a day or two. Women just need assurance of their partner’s love all the time, so you might need “to act” (not just “to say”) that you love her more. If you cannot make this kind of effort, you should probably find someone else that you like more.

What a drama queen. If you love her you should let her know. You should also let her know that you are a guy and guys dont understand what women want and she should be upfront with you and not “test” you.

Oh my god! That sounds awful… so does she let you go anywhere on your own?

I mean the underlying issue sounds to be as if she’s insecure and as a result is being possessive.

You can’t live like that at all, if she can’t agree to work on that and stop being possessive you need to end it before it gets worse. But try and see you can work on it and be gentle about the situation as she’s probably feeling really low at the minute.

aaah aint we women grand :D
basically, she didnt want you to go, but she expected you to know she didnt want you to go so even when she said go, you shouldnt have gone.
confusing yes?
well thats women for you.
tell her you will not be a part of games like that, that you trust her to be honest with you and so you will take what she says as the truth.

its low self esteem. her low view of herself makes her think insecurely like this, its nothing to do with you.
if i were you, i would tell her she needs to sort it out, and learn to trust you, or you wont be round for long.

she ****** up its not your fault let her know your not in ******* high school and she cant be playing her stupid *** games tell her to figer out what she wants to do thats its up to her and you go have fun any ways to teach her a lesson its not cool what she did to you next

if t was me i would have left to that party and told her we would talk about it when you got home

no, not all women. but we are a fickle species, thats for sure.
sometimes we need to be told to not be so retarded is all.
the best way, is to tell her how what she does makes you feel.
and that she has no reason to not trust you, and if she cannot deal with her issues, it will no longer be your problem as they are driving you away.

hell no you not im sure if she asked you if it was ok 4 her to go out on girls night out you would not say no

hell you might evan encourage it

but as soon as you say guys night i bet she flips i had a girl that did this called me every hr if i dident answer she would get mad

trust me make her realizes what shes doing is wrong & honestly bro if she cant change it you are better off without her

no girls wants to be with a extreme jealous self centered boy friend who talks in riddles
so why should you be with a with some one that dose that to you

I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

no she being a baby so treat her like one yes tell her you lover but she need to relize what she did was wrong

You dont agree with the party thing..i dont think that in a relation ship discos and partys are good..but a weeding party i dont see it wrong..
But not discos i Mean..Discos i see them wrong..while in a relationship beacuse they bring alot of fights..

vik2dato wrote:

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

no she being a baby so treat her like one yes tell her you lover but she need to relize what she did was wrong

well yea when people act erosional like his gf yes i can see why you would not

but thats not how relationships work i believe the two most important thins to make a relationship work is you need trust and compromise

some one who enjoys going out occasionally or hang out with the guys & getting some time apart well
thats his wishes & he should be respected enough by his spouse that she not just thinking about her self

who knows maybe shes just p.m.s.ing

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
You dont agree with the party thing..i dont think that in a relation ship discos and partys are good..but a weeding party i dont see it wrong..
But not discos i Mean..Discos i see them wrong..while in a relationship beacuse they bring alot of fights..

vik2dato wrote:

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

no she being a baby so treat her like one yes tell her you lover but she need to relize what she did was wrong

if in a relationship is not there Trust…it dont work..

Sorry but i dont agree with discos when you are in a Relationship
But partys of Birthday/weeding They will passs!!

vik2dato wrote:
well yea when people act erosional like his gf yes i can see why you would not

but thats not how relationships work i believe the two most important thins to make a relationship work is you need trust and compromise

some one who enjoys going out occasionally or hang out with the guys & getting some time apart well
thats his wishes & he should be respected enough by his spouse that she not just thinking about her self

who knows maybe shes just p.m.s.ing

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
You dont agree with the party thing..i dont think that in a relation ship discos and partys are good..but a weeding party i dont see it wrong..
But not discos i Mean..Discos i see them wrong..while in a relationship beacuse they bring alot of fights..

vik2dato wrote:

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

no she being a baby so treat her like one yes tell her you lover but she need to relize what she did was wrong

fine i guess we can compromise birthday party @ vegas yeaaaa lol

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
if in a relationship is not there Trust…it dont work..

Sorry but i dont agree with discos when you are in a Relationship
But partys of Birthday/weeding They will passs!!

vik2dato wrote:
well yea when people act erosional like his gf yes i can see why you would not

but thats not how relationships work i believe the two most important thins to make a relationship work is you need trust and compromise

some one who enjoys going out occasionally or hang out with the guys & getting some time apart well
thats his wishes & he should be respected enough by his spouse that she not just thinking about her self

who knows maybe shes just p.m.s.ing

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
You dont agree with the party thing..i dont think that in a relation ship discos and partys are good..but a weeding party i dont see it wrong..
But not discos i Mean..Discos i see them wrong..while in a relationship beacuse they bring alot of fights..

vik2dato wrote:

ℓινιηg4уσυ wrote:
I don’t see party’s goods when you are in a series relationship…
If you love her let her know…
And you did not go because of you want that because if you really wish to go you go..
If she say no or yes if you really want to go you will go…

Talk to her and tell her what she does wrong. And explain her..
And she will take it as a lesson….

no she being a baby so treat her like one yes tell her you lover but she need to relize what she did was wrong

;)

how long as your gf been acting this way?

have you noticed anything different about her lately
*other than her being too clingy*

you say youve been with her for 4yrs
thats a pretty long time to still be insecure

as other girls come onto you, while your gfs been there?

depending on if she had an invite
then you decided you wanted go alone
yes this would be disrespecting her

it doesnt neccesarily mean you dont love her
if you needed some time apart :)

steelmike wrote:
okay! 10x

So lets say that she didn’t argued and i went to the party…

I was going just because i wished to go to my best friends party. no bad intentions.

is going to the party alone, disrespect for her?
does that also mean that i don’t love her?

Thankz in advance!

Its not disrespectful at all!! You are a couple but you are still two individuals. You deserve to be happy and have fun. Just reassure her as much as you possibly can but do not jeapordise you going out.

I’m a really insecure girl… my boyfriend is out tonight on a lads night on the town. It really is hard but I trust him, so instead I just make the most of it :D lol Peace and quiet!

♥Rαvєr♥ wrote:

steelmike wrote:
okay! 10x

So lets say that she didn’t argued and i went to the party…

I was going just because i wished to go to my best friends party. no bad intentions.

is going to the party alone, disrespect for her?
does that also mean that i don’t love her?

Thankz in advance!

Its not disrespectful at all!! You are a couple but you are still two individuals. You deserve to be happy and have fun. Just reassure her as much as you possibly can but do not jeapordise you going out.

I’m a really insecure girl… my boyfriend is out tonight on a lads night on the town. It really is hard but I trust him, so instead I just make the most of it :D lol Peace and quiet!

I agree. I’m not the most secure girl either, and I have had issues before, but we talked about it & I know I was being ridiculous. I’m actually in a “real life” relationship that turned into a long-distance relationship for a bit of time because of job situations…he had to move away :(. So I have to get used to the idea of my boyfriend going out and making new friends without me there :( We’re 1,000 miles apart when we used to spend nearly every day together! :(

In fact…tonight he is going to meet some new “car” people that drive around his town together and all that. I’m not crazy about it, but I trust him. It’s just something you have to learn to do…and I guess it’s really your girlfriend that we should be telling this to, but maybe you could use this as an example if you have a talk with her :D Ask her what would she do if you guys had to live 1,000 miles apart for a time. I hope she would realize and appreciate how lucky she is to have you around (in person) for the majority of her time.

She’s very insecure…. and it probably won’t get any better even if you stayed stuck to her like glue every day for the rest of your life… Maybe it’s time to call it a day.

Yup Kitt e has it 100% there. Most girls have this issue, its just a lot of us manage to realise it is just us being insecure, its not the guys fault at all and ultimately we can’t take it out on the guy - just on the offchance we may get hurt.

man seriously, if you cant go out on your own without her having a total spazz meltdown, then the girl has issues and the relationship is fairly doomed. you dont give up your individuality or right to enjoy time on your own when you become part of a relationship, in fact its part of what makes relationships WORK, is having your own time.
if she has that little trust in you, why would you want to be with her anyways