Well, I have royally screwed up, AGAIN.

darkscorpia

Well, I have royally screwed up, AGAIN.

I’ve been going to culinary school, and i met someone. I knew him before, but not that closely since i met him while i was still with my ex. Anyway, I’m single, he’s single and we ended up making out on a friday night. That’s all i thought of it, then he started sending me sweet messages and stuff and I thought hmm! Might be something here. Then it’s just.. he’d see me around school and tell me ‘Come with me’ and i would then he’d end up being way too busy with his friends and he’d ignore me. So I’d just go back to my friends.. And i ignored him a bit last thursday i admit but i didn’t feel like the drama i’m sick at the moment. Now i went out this Friday (yesterday) and I saw my old group and I was happy to see them and stuff we were laughing, having fun and i sat down on one of my friends (Who’s a guy) and he was stoned, drunk and started biting my neck and running his hands up and down my legs which was nothing in my opinion… then i look up and i see him there, on the next table looking at us and i just smiled at him, as in.. Hi… and before i left the place i went to give him a hug and he gave me this look, it broke my heart.. a look that said ‘You’re hurting me.. why? Stop it’ and MAN that just….i mean we’re not going out i didn’t think anything of it and i’m eating myself up from the inside now.. He didn’t even text to see if i’m out anyway so i don’t know if i did anything wrong.. :( I’m feeling… kinda immature but bothered cos i don’t wanna hurt him, he’s sweet and i didn’t do it on purpose..

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Agaa 2 #
GB | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

hes messing you around
get him to be completely clear of how he feels about you
ask him plainly do you have feelings for me?
do you want a relationship ?
althoough be careful coz if he wants you you cant let him take you for granted okay ?

hope this helps a little

jay

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darkscorpia 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

Agaa wrote:
hes messing you around
get him to be completely clear of how he feels about you
ask him plainly do you have feelings for me?
do you want a relationship ?
althoough be careful coz if he wants you you cant let him take you for granted okay ?

hope this helps a little

jay

thanks.. i want to do that, but i’d just have to get him alone i guess.. That’s a little hard since he’s surrounded by people all the time..

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Dr. Ralph 69 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

I guess he didn’t expect to see you making out with random guys. Maybe he thought when you made out with him it was something special and now he is hurt. Guys seem to ease into relationships and girls don’t.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

You could apologize to him for hurting him… that apology by the way does NOT imply that you did anything wrong, you didn’t. You are not in a committed relationship with this guy… if you were, you would have known it… the two of you would have talked about it. People in committed relationships talk about their relationship, they don’t just assume things.

But I want you to think about something and I apologize up front if this offends you. Perhaps he was not hurt because you were making out with someone… but rather he was hurt that you ALLOWED a drunken, drugged up looser to be slobbering all over you, and feeling you up in public. Perhaps he thought you were a better woman than that… maybe that is why he was hurt.

You have to talk with him to heal anything.

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darkscorpia 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

i didn’t make out with the other guy! i was sitting on him, and he just bit my neck, kissed my neck.. and i hit him on the head cos he was drunk and high, but he is just a friend to me. After i made out with him (i mean the guy i go to school with, not the guy who was biting my neck) i didn’t make out with anyone else after.. i really didn’t want to.

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darkscorpia 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 53 minutes after post)

Richard Cor de Lyon wrote:
You could apologize to him for hurting him… that apology by the way does NOT imply that you did anything wrong, you didn’t. You are not in a committed relationship with this guy… if you were, you would have known it… the two of you would have talked about it. People in committed relationships talk about their relationship, they don’t just assume things.

But I want you to think about something and I apologize up front if this offends you. Perhaps he was not hurt because you were making out with someone… but rather he was hurt that you ALLOWED a drunken, drugged up looser to be slobbering all over you, and feeling you up in public. Perhaps he thought you were a better woman than that… maybe that is why he was hurt.

You have to talk with him to heal anything.

I’m not offended, honestly i just didn’t think.. the guy i was sitting on is like a brother to me, but they don’t know each other so it’s my fault..

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Dr. Ralph 69 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 58 minutes after post)

darkscorpia wrote:
i didn’t make out with the other guy! i was sitting on him, and he just bit my neck, kissed my neck.. and i hit him on the head cos he was drunk and high, but he is just a friend to me. After i made out with him (i mean the guy i go to school with, not the guy who was biting my neck) i didn’t make out with anyone else after.. i really didn’t want to.

I bet if you tell him this it will make everything wayyy better for both of you.

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darkscorpia 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:

darkscorpia wrote:
i didn’t make out with the other guy! i was sitting on him, and he just bit my neck, kissed my neck.. and i hit him on the head cos he was drunk and high, but he is just a friend to me. After i made out with him (i mean the guy i go to school with, not the guy who was biting my neck) i didn’t make out with anyone else after.. i really didn’t want to.

I bet if you tell him this it will make everything wayyy better for both of you.

Yeah, i guess so. i just dont know how to bring it up.. if it’s meant to be it will be- is that my spiritual side talking or my scared side? :/

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Agaa 2 #
GB | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

okay its by no means our fault you didnt really have a commitment there so dont think that its your fault, as someone mentioned above , i cant remember who, an apology is good but it doesnt mean youre sorry for doing something which was wrong if that makes sense seriously to get him on his own just mske out you need his help for something but not so big a thing that itll take more than him to help

hope this is a bit better
feel free to completely dismiss it hehe

Jay

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kjdsa #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 38 minutes after post)

oooh, it sounds like something i would get into.
honestly, tell him he was sending you mixed messages and you didn’t know where the two of you were going, let alone whether or not the two of you were exclusive or serious. serious as in.. actually going somewhere.
you really should just talk to him, and depend on your natural instinct to find the right timing.

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darkscorpia 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 56 minutes after post)

kjdsa wrote:
oooh, it sounds like something i would get into.
honestly, tell him he was sending you mixed messages and you didn’t know where the two of you were going, let alone whether or not the two of you were exclusive or serious. serious as in.. actually going somewhere.
you really should just talk to him, and depend on your natural instinct to find the right timing.

great advice, thank you!

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