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Ok so im needing advice this is long.
well my best friend since ive known (oh i dont use any punctuation)since 4th grade now were older then 21 but younger then 25. So shes been dating this guy named “matt” and you know shes living with him and there relationship is rock y at least to me since he doesnt call her babe or says i love you or kisses her, this is what shes told me. well ive know him since they got together. well “matt” has a older brother named “eric” and ive known him the same amount of time. “eric” has a girlfriend named”vanessa” well they all live together. Ive always had a crush on “eric” never said much to my best friend since hes with his girlfriend and i have a boyfriend. oh and hes girlfriend doesnt like me at ALL. shes very insecure and has low self esteem. well they moved to a different city. he would call me like maybe 2 a week if that. again never thought anything cause hes with “vanessa” and hes in a different city. so within 2years things have happened now i dont have a boyfriend and he moved back with out “vanessa”nthere no longer together.so hes living with his brother and “manda” (the best friend) so ive been going over to there house to hang out with her you know cause were bffs! well eric has been hanging out with us and i like it hes funny and sweet and soooo cool. well “manda” tells me to get to know him more like go out with him cause they have mentioned to us that we deserve to be happy and eric and I were in crappy relationships before. so i was considering it since ive always liked him and she tells me hes always like me well, now shes saying dont like shes trying so hard to convince me to not talk to him when in the begining she was telling me to go for it. well the guy shes with “matt” shes loves to death and shes a big believer in tarot cards and things like that. oh and we work together. well she came into work and thats when she was trying to convince me to not talk to him. well she said a year ago that she was looking for a car and this lady told her that a very close friend is going to betray her. well when she told me that she also said that she doesnt think its a good idea that i tlak to him cause she doesnt want to feel acward if me and him later down the road break up (hence eric lives with “manda and Matt”. i said that me and eric are grown ups and we are and shes been ignoring me so i wont go to her house and just things like that. im mad at her cause shes supossed to be my BEST FRIEND and shes really making me upset i dontknow if to talk to her or what. i know she can be a selfish person and she even told me that she was when she said to not talk to eric but i like him and knowing that i cant see or talk to him( i dont have a cellphone, at least not yet) its really bothering me. so i decided if shes gonna be selfish and not let me go over im not gonna be her friend. what do yall think i should do or say to her. im really confused. OH!!! shes telling me all his flaws i know shes telling me to let me know how he is. but everyone has there flaws right? and i said i didnt care cause i wanted to get to know him more so i can find out myself you know. ive had an anger problem but now im trying to turn my life around and im a big believer that were put on this earth for a reason and we each have a plan. and i was thinking well if eric does have an anger problem maybe hes need a friend like me who knows. plus i wanted to get to know him and shes thinking like way down the road. to me i think shes scared if i do go out with him cause her relationship will end. im kindof the happy fun person and shes more reserved and very jealous not judging her but shes decribes herself to me like that. so people i would like some advice. please dont want to explode in her face.
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