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Self-Esteem Question

One of my best friends in the whole world has awful self-esteem. The thing is, he’s not one of those kids that sit around complaining about themselves. In fact, he’s really active, smart, and the best male friend I’ve ever had.

On my britdhay, he made me a cake. He pays for food and drinks when we’re at conventions… and I just don’t know why he’s like this. He’ll deny compliments, refuse help with things…

He’s doing a lot better recently - we’re trying to build his self-esteem little by little, but… it’s just not enough. Do you have any ideas of what I could do to help him?

Thanks

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jeremysolo offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

I wish I had some helpful advice, but im really in the same boat as your friend. Just make sure he knows how much you care about him. the best thing for someone with low self esteem is to let them know that they are loved and needed.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Are you sure its low self esteem or is he just really humble? Sometimes it can be hard to tell.

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2 months ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

sum wrote:
Are you sure its low self esteem or is he just really humble? Sometimes it can be hard to tell.

No, I’m sure it’s self-esteem. I can’t even give him a compliment without having to have an argument with him.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

Maybe you could ask him why he doesnt take compliments or why does he feel lowely of himself? Maybe he feels guilty about something?

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