Love help: why do people change when relationships end? - Help.com

What did you expect her to do? Stay home and not do anything. Maybe you were cramping her style and that’s why she left you. Or maybe she did not want to be in a relationship and to be more specific, in a relationship with you. Have you thought about that? I’m sorry to be so harsh but sometimes it takes someone else to see the things we don’t want to see or don’t want to acknowledge. By the way, she’s single and not with you anymore so she can do what she darn pleases.

However, now you should do the same and go out and have a good time instead of spending your time wallowing about the past and her. You’re acting like a 6 year old spoiled little boy who thinks that the world revolves around you. What do you care what she does or does not do?

I’m sorry to be so harsh but that’s how I see it.

thanks….! i care because i love her by the way….! i did everything for that girl i could of! it bothers me because i tryed so hard to get her to do what shes doing now…and she wouldnt with me….! i am going out and doing the same…like i always have! your right if she can do what she wants….so can i…. thanks for pointing that out….have u ever thought giveing advice to someone could push them over the edge little nick?

Yes, I have thought about that. But anybody with any smarts would also take the advice and move on. You’re not that weak are you?

By the way, you make it sound like she’s consciously doing things to hurt you personally. I don’t think she is. You’re just concentrating too much and what she does or does not do instead of trying to find ways to move and maybe meet people without letting them see the baggage that you’re carrying around.

Get the monkey off your back and move on!! Do your best and eventually you will see that it was not that big of a deal.

Your problem is already there but you’re concentrating too much on it and are letting it drag you down. What you ought to do is concentrate on finding a solution and ways that you can make her go out of your mind and heart.

Go on!

im a very strong minded male, and physicly very strong to, emotionally…. im very weak and have just had my heart truly broken! i dont mind admiting that! if uve ever been in love little nick, u should realize how emotionally un stable a normal person can get sometimes… now in my case, its been like im a totally diffrent person…jackle and hyde u could say really…and im in a very weird place with myself at the moment wich i dont like….i might not be normal and i dont now what im capable of doing….to her or to me to anyone or anything! u can call be spoilt, absessed,a kid, a physco..whateva… it just makes me worse at the moment..! but at the moment ive got no intension of doing anything… i just wanted some advive…. i didnt realize how much advice could wind me up more tho.

Move on!

if only it was that easy in my head. thanks anyway

oh jeez..this stuff happens all the time.. sounds to me like she has never done the partying thing, and now shes just starting to do it. she may miss you and come back to you after awhile, but right now she is having the time of her life. it may also be to disguise the pain. unfortunately when stuff like this happens to you, theres not a lot you can do about it. i had a guy leave me….and he never turned back. when i tried to contact him, he told me to f off before he had to change his number and pretend to move. thats pretty direct. when a heart breaks it never breaks even. one person is hurting more from it. i am really sorry.

thank u….. :(