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I’ve been with my girl for 3 years and i too feel trapped,

I’ve never hurt her nor came close to it what so ever yet all i get is constant accusation. We’ve broken up once and now all i do is regret taking her back i feel as though my life is being wasted and im trapped at home thinking about what could have been in my life. I cant even talk to a friend without having her upset with me, i used to be a very friendly person and still am, but now all i do is yell with her and i dont see the real me with her. I do w/e i can to keep her happy yet it backfires on me and all i have to blame is myself. I feel as though its impossible for me to break up with her because im afraid of that first reaction. I also know she’ll come to my house call my cell and my house phone constantly and i just cant deal with it, but at the same time i know its right. I’ve even tried to just let her break up with me that doesnt even seem to work. Any suggestions?

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pajama_girl offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

if she really makes you unhappy, then tell her, let her know what she’s doing to make you feel this way. if she doesn’t change then she doesn’t really care. that’s when you have to move on before you change to suit her needs.

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Truth Behind Mind offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Well you pretty much stated the answer in your post for the most part, you are going to have to take control of your life and do it now , if you know you cant be the real you and not happy you have to let her know that this is a serious decision on breaking up. Tell her that and let her know you are moving on

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nikkidance offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 2 months ago (30 minutes after post)

It’s really great of you to try and make her happy yet, you can’t sacrifice your happiness on behalf oh hers. It is not fair to you or her really if you are unhappy in this relationship. She sounds like the type of person who is afraid of being alone so she lashes out at you. It’s not selfish to end this relationship, in the end it will be better for you and for her. It may be messy at first but the end result I think will benefit both of you. Tell her that you do care about her and want her to be happy but you don’t think you are what makes her happy. Tell her how hard it is for you to try and be there for her and you don’t feel like she is ever there for you? (if that is how you feel). To me it sounds like she is not very supportive of you (again if this is not true I apologize). But, ending the relationship is the best case for both of you, its not selfish.
Hope I was able to help a little, and good luck!

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classicrock1818 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (35 minutes after post)

you sound miserable i say you have to end it for your sanity and to prevent some sort of fear of commitment or other issue arising from this relationship

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (36 minutes after post)

you should break up with her. but before you do, you need to tell yourself that what shes doing is not your fault, its HERS and shes manipulating you into making you feel bad . dont be scared that somethings going to happen to HER if you break up with her. sure its considerate to do so, but think about what is happening to you right now when you’re with her. not only is it negatively affecting you, but it is also negatively affecting the people around you, and thats not right.

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

i no exactly how you feel, ive been in a relationship for 2 years and we just broke up thinking it would make thigns better, but then you end up feeling really lonley without someone caring for you :[

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