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I started a job 3 weeks ago now.

The trainer is 24 years old and is cruel, demanding, sarcastic, harsh and a tad bit sadistic I believe. I agree with his philosophy that he will not accept anything less than 100%. However, his means of achieving it could literally put some people in tears if they are not strong and supple. I am often the target of his sarcasm and rough treatment. He keeps an eye on me at all times it seems, listens to everything I say and, I feel as though I am in a fishbowl. I am attentive and participate each day during class (which lasts from 4pm-1am). One day we were setting our passwords for the computer systems. I wrote down the initial password because the rest of them were to be the same as that one. He walked by, was monitoring our progress and when he got to me, asked why weren’t mine written down. I explained to him I was going to set all passwords the same. His reply was, “I don’t care, write them down.” He repeated this several times. He also said, “when you come and ask me for the passwords, I’m going to tell you ‘they’re all the same.” Next, he literally stood over my shoulder until I had all five or so passwords recorded. He asks that we turn our computers off when we leave the station. I forgot one day and he shut the computer down. In his own words, I was his “first casualty.” The previous week he said he would turn the monitor display upside down if we forget to lock the computers, then he called my name and said specifically if it happens to me its not because he is picking on me or doesn’t like me. More recently, we were working on an exercise in class and I fell behind, but not due to to inattention. Unable to figure out where exactly I got lost, I began to work on other assigned work. When he came to monitor our progress, I told him I wasn’t ready yet and he became quite angry with me. I was roundly taken to task, told that I seemed uninterested in what he was teaching and that he isn’t sure whether or not I should advance to the next phase of work and make him look bad. He told me he did not care what I thought, that he is calling it as he sees it. Then he asked if I could honestly say that I was giving the training my best effort. I admitted that maybe I wasn’t giving it my all (by only a slight amount) but was definitely committed and serious; I let him know that I understood the majority of the concepts he was teaching when first introduced, except maybe two. He covers a great deal of material each day, by the way. I was told that two is two too many. I have seen others not paying attention during class, working on other things, and people who have cell phones ring when devices should be turned off according to policy. I do not feel he should be on my case so much. He gave a quiz last week and I scored among the highest five in the whole class. During our chat he asked why did I not ask for help and I could not think of anything to say, so after being continually pressed I said it was because I did not want to slow down the class. His reply, “that makes no sense to me.” He then said,”from now on, you will ask questions when you need to and get understanding. There is too much support around for you to fall behind. If necessary we will start putting these meetings on paper. I really do not feel that is necessary.” One day he tells me he is there for support with the job should I need it, the next day it seems he hates my guts. Should I apologize for what happened or should I just let it be? I am not disrespectful at all to him. I wonder if he just wants me out the door or just what exactly his motive is. How should I handle this?

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