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He doesnt care anymore.He’s a changed person…
So me and my boyfriend have been going out for abit past a year , we broke up last month for a few weeks because he flipped when i was with my guy friend, which he dislikes.The reason why he dislike my guy friend matthew is beacause, his twin brother martin, used to have a thing for me, tried to hit on me, and get inbetween us but although for all that, i still spoke to him as a friend and my boyfriend has really hated it. He’s told me to cut him off but by the end of the month, i ended up speaking to him some how, through facebook, mutual friends , wahtever. and so at the end of every month for about half the year, he’d beg for me to change,and to cut him off and i would promise, and end up breaking it a month after , knowing i couldnt. So, besides my commitment issue, my bf knows i cant change. and so after the matthew incident, he went beserk and cut me off for a week. he’s a changed person now. ofcourse i felt guilty and ive tried really hard to see him and make it up to him but he’s said hes done with me, and basically im not worth it..and it hurts. Not only is this a problem but he has really bad family problems, and although this has nothing to do with it, he’s on the use of cocaine as well.Anything i say, he ignores, he brushes me off, and neglects me. We’re back together but it isnt the same. before, he was sooooo IN LOVE with me, he’d call, he’d msg, he’d always always want to see me, be with me, do anything for me. and now, he couldnt care less. he doesnt even care about how my day is going. he sighs in exasperation when i cry, as if he’s putting up with me rather then being there for me. he says he still loves me, has feelings and cares but his actions dont show it.. i can honestly say that he isnt treating me right, and its very depressing but i have hope that he’s the same nice guy i fell for. He just doesnt care no more, and i admit, i have turned from the confident independent to the clingy and needy :/ my girlfriends have told me to stop calling, stop beign so needy, and then my other girlfriends have told me to just stick through it because hes going through a really hard time..which he is, but thats no excuse to mistreat your ppartner,because they should be there for you! He calls me annoying and nosy when i try to ask questions to help, because hes not even letting me in on his life! and my other girlfriend who says shes been down teh same road i have , said its just going to lead to friends with benefits and that im just dragging it on . And that people change, and things will never be the same , so i should just move on , and if i really love him, id let him go. which is what im considering.. because it takes two to work, not one… so any suggestions or advice? id love to hear from past experiences as well. i really want this to work out.
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