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Okay i lost Her

okay i lost a friend cause i date a guy that she dont like. he realy loves me and i realy love him. i think we were made for each other. But the friend i realy need. we ben through alot. she was the first person that i told i was gay. she also helped me get over the grief of my friend that was killed in a drive by. please help what do i do?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

What was the main reason you lost her?

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crafte offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Be straight with her.
A true friend will be happy for you, not break you off. That is unless there is something you’re not telling us.

Just tell her that the person you are with makes you happy and if she can’t accept that… well, then there is not much you can do.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Why does your friend think it is reasonable to end her friendship because you’re dating a particular person?

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mathfreak offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

she don’t like him because his ex boyfriend cheated on her brother. so that is crazy right.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Sounds pretty bizarre. But this is emotional blackmail. No friend will try to control another friend by threats of withdrawing a friendship. If you allow her to do this, you just reinforce her blackmailing behaviour.

Basically your relationship makes her anxious. She is trying to get rid of that anxiety by controlling you. She needs to learn more effective coping skills for her anxiety. Running away from it or controlling others really are bad ways of dealing with it.

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