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Why would you want to do this?

i dunno,to get hospitilized n to sleep for a bit

Don’t eat for 5 days then make some work that would require you to use your strength more. Then I’m sure you will be collapsed.

thanx but i want a fast way,like within an hour

any more ideas

Sorry, but at help.com we don’t advise people on how to harm themselves.

Why can’t you sleep?

i dont wanna harm myself just collapse

Anonymous wrote:
i dont wanna harm myself just collapse

What if you collapse and hit your head on the floor, knock yourself unconcious and swallow your tongue? Or sustain a head?

It’s a little melodramatic and unnecessary I think.

Making yourself collapse could cause you harm.

Now.. why can’t you sleep? What’s up?

Anonymous wrote:
thanx but i want a fast way,like within an hour

any more ideas

Are you trying to avoid something/ get out of something??

First you wanted to cut yourself, now this?

Don’t you have better things to do with your time? Why not do something more productive? You want people to feel sorry for you? How much attention do you want? Being in the hospital costs money. Why would you want to cause your parents or your parents’ insurance that unnecessary expense and worry? Are you really that selfish? What’s really going on in your life?

Is your school work suffering?

Are you being bullied?

Are you being abused at home?

Don’t you feel loved by your parents?

You didn’t get the latest toy in the market?

Your parents don’t approve of your friend, boyfriend, or girlfriend?

Are you gay and are afraid to come out of the closet?

What’s going on?

no i want to collapse so i can rest and be hospitilized

How old are you?

21

can you explain why you can’t simply rest at home?

i can -im just fed up

Don’t you have a full time job or go to college?

Get an early night - works wonders

yes

well, if we can figure out why you feel fed up then maybe we can pick away and find some solutions?

Sorry, didn’t mean for that to sound so blunt. It’s just quite an extreme length to go to get some rest.

But I’m guessing it isn’t about the rest, it’s about having someone to care for you, even if it’s a stranger in hospital.

What is this really about?

i have had bipolar since i was 13,i have been better and really well on and off ever since,i have recently started getting thoughts and have been thinkin ov selfharmin but i am scared and feelin confused so dont know what to say and i wil upset eveyone coz i have been well for so long, i dont know what to do,i have stopped taken my medication and havent taken it for 5 days,im getting withdrawal symptoms already. and dont know if to just go with the flow and if i end up self harming then so be it, i cant tell anyone,i will let everyone down and upset everyone.

Attention. Is that what you’re looking for? You want people to feel sorry for you? YOu want everybody to stop their lives and concentrate on you. Is that it?

no its not.

Firstly, stop worrying that you will upset other people. Talking here will help you to figure out what to say to people. We can be your “dummy run” before you tell your family, friends or health carers.

The person who needs to be number one right now is you. It’s you that must not be upset.

If you are bipolar, remember that it’s like a rollercoaster.. up one minute and down the next. When you are down.. remember you WILL go up again.

Why did you stop taking your medication?

5 days ago
i dont know who to turn to
i live with big family n we all close so they know my everymove so cant go doctors as they will want to know y
thank you for being so understanding

Your family care right?

yes but too much thats y i cant tell them as it has been a rollercoster for them too-me being well,poorly,well,poorly,i cant keep doin it to them,feel like running away or maybe just ending it all,

Why did you stop your meds?

i was fed up

Go back to your meds. Sounds like you really need them.

Listen. Stop thinking that you have to deal with this problem alone.

Your family would be devastated if they thought that you were suffering and didn’t want to trouble them now wouldn’t they?

Here’s what you need to do.

Make an appointment to see your doctor. Everything you tell him is confidential and he has to keep it that way. Tell your family you want to explore new options for keeping your bipolar in order so have made an appointment to chat things through with them. That’s no big deal, and they will be proud that you are working on this for yourself.

i cant

Yes you can.

You’re 21. You’re not a child. Even if you were a child, you still could.

Ask your doctor to find alternative therapies for you if you don’t want to take the meds.

They are there to help you remember.

i wouldn’t know what to say-i cannot visit drs without my parents knowing,so cant go doctors,where else can i go,i go college,i could go somewhere then but not doctors

You could talk to a college counsellor. They can sometimes put you in touch with other resources too.

It concerns me that you don’t want your parents to know.

I’m a parent.

It would hurt me more if my child kept secrets from me. Don’t underestimate your family’s ability to cope with your bipolar issues. They can and will !

i think i’d rather die then dissappoint them again,im always dissappointing them and upsetting them with my problems-i cant do it to them any more-i should just run away or end it

Write down how you feel - just like you did here. Write down any questions that come into your head.. now, when you talk to someone you have something to help you focus on what you want to say and talk about.

I’m guessing you are in US. Is funding an issue here?

not in US.
uk

If they tell you they are disappointed.. then they don’t yet understand how bipolar works.

If this is truly the case, they you need to work at educating them.

Have they said these things?

then you have no worries at all if you are in uk :)

You must have already seen the doctor to get your prescription, so you do need to keep going back regularly anyway. Now, don’t be afraid to tell him you stopped taking your medication. That’s nothing to be ashamed of here. You are an adult and YOU are in control of what you want to try medically. If you wanted to try coping without them, then that’s fine. Your doctor will respect that. In fact, he’s likely to say “it’s good that you are making independent choices”.

So, just make the appointment and say you want to chat things through.

Tell your parents you feel confident enough to want to deal with this alone if you like..

But don’t shut them out.

no they always say they love me but i know i upset and stress them out with my problems-they are so understanding and supportive which is why it makes it so hard sometimes as i know how upset they will be

No you don’t know.

You THINK you will upset them if you bottle things up and don’t tell them. In fact, the reverse is more likely to be true. They will feel guilty that you weren’t able to confide in them, hurt that you shut them out when they want to help… all of that.

As a mum, I KNOW.

Now, you have a think about what I’ve said so far and work on a plan.

Meanwhile, try some things to help you relax. You could run yourself a nice warm bath.. make your favourite hot drink.. play some gentle soothing music. If you have some lavendar oil, put a drop or two on a hankie and inhale slowly. (Be careful not to touch your skin with it). Or put some lavendar bubbles in your bath water…

Then work at building a positive approach. Take a look at Stephen Fry: The Secret Life of the Manic Depressive. It’s an excellent documentary and is available to download online (also in sections on youtube).

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mumstheword wrote:
Now, you have a think about what I’ve said so far and work on a plan.

Meanwhile, try some things to help you relax. You could run yourself a nice warm bath.. make your favourite hot drink.. play some gentle soothing music. If you have some lavendar oil, put a drop or two on a hankie and inhale slowly. (Be careful not to touch your skin with it). Or put some lavendar bubbles in your bath water…

Then work at building a positive approach. Take a look at Stephen Fry: The Secret Life of the Manic Depressive. It’s an excellent documentary and is available to download online (also in sections on youtube).

Mums really do know best don’t they? :D

liv_192 wrote:

mumstheword wrote:
Now, you have a think about what I’ve said so far and work on a plan.

Meanwhile, try some things to help you relax. You could run yourself a nice warm bath.. make your favourite hot drink.. play some gentle soothing music. If you have some lavendar oil, put a drop or two on a hankie and inhale slowly. (Be careful not to touch your skin with it). Or put some lavendar bubbles in your bath water…

Then work at building a positive approach. Take a look at Stephen Fry: The Secret Life of the Manic Depressive. It’s an excellent documentary and is available to download online (also in sections on youtube).

Mums really do know best don’t they? :D

bless mums

This is the kid that went off his bipolar meds 4 days ago, i wouldnt say anything is goin into his head right now, hes manic as all hell. but now it seems, just like we told you, your world is coming crashing down around you, just as it does wit your disorder.
comeon, at 21 years old, you need to be far more responsible.

Locking your knees will do the trick.

locking the kness wont work for some people
especialy the healthy
it never worked for me
i know ways to TKO yourself in less than 140 seconds with no initial harm drugs or other influances
but what our friend needs is mental emotional and spiritual stabilization
if your going to be off your meds you need counceling in the mean while
the first 6 years off my meds was hell
but i can almost function like a normal person now
if i could do it surly you who are a much better person than i am could do it much better

and about your family
open up
talk to them
thats what family is for

Get back on the medication unless you think you can put yourself in Therapy or find some other professional help. Do what’s best for you, harming yourself is not it and you know that it isn’t.

passing out kills brain cells. precious, precious brain cells. your brain is deprived of oxygen long enough to momentarily shut down, hence the blackout. theres plenty of ways to do it, none more safe than others.
for goodness sakes go back to your doctor kiddo, like every single person here in your last 3 posts has told you to do

Brains?
)drools crosseyed with head at a tilt(
Bbrainz?
dui herd ob dem befower

Right, people will not like this answer.

You want to collapse without pain? Thats imposible sorry.

However your situation seems a lot better then mine ever was, i’ve been awake for months on end, and even had to go to the hospital a few times as i just couldn’t sleep and my heart was starting to act wacky.

If you really want to collapse legaly and be unresposible, i have one word of advice.
Tequilla!. “One tequilla, two tequilla, three tequilla… Floor.”

Responsible would be visiting your doctors.

Legion.

I think you should definatly go to the docs. you don’t have to worry about you parents knowing or not knowing. I’m 18 and if I want to go to the doctors and my mam asks why, if I don’t want to tell her, I just tell her I’m telling her an if she persists, I’d just say it’s none of her business. It’s my business. You don’t have to tell them what you are doing if you don’t want to. However if you are feeling like this, you should really tell them, because if you do harm yourself or try to rid of yourself, they will feel it was their fault. Think about how they would feel. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and they will feel better knowing you told them how you feel because you will be showing that you trust them. Bottling things up does not help, you really need to talk about the feelings you have. You haven’t got to make yourself alone with it all. speak up.

at first I thought it was very stupid to want to make yourself faint, but I don’t understand your condition very well. I know that alot of the time my body tries to make me faint. I don’t like it and I wish it wouldn’t and to see someone that actually wants it to happen-I thought it was rather daft. Whatever you do, don’t harm yourself. trying to make yourself faint is definatly harming yourself. and if you did this you would cause more worry to your family then you would if you just talked to them.
goodluck ok, it is much better to talk to people, I’ve bottled things up before and it will make you more unhappy

legion
there are 2 ways of tko without pain that i am good at
one is done to my self by saturation and blood pressure change
(you can learn cool stuff in ninjitsu)
second is a strike, safe, easy, and painless
but thats on oponents, not the person themselfs

FAKE IT!

Swine flu?

courtybubble wrote:
passing out kills brain cells. precious, precious brain cells. your brain is deprived of oxygen long enough to momentarily shut down, hence the blackout. theres plenty of ways to do it, none more safe than others.
for goodness sakes go back to your doctor kiddo, like every single person here in your last 3 posts has told you to do

giving advice on brain cells, kinda ironic, you been token up lately? (sarcasm) : )

Anonymous wrote:

courtybubble wrote:
passing out kills brain cells. precious, precious brain cells. your brain is deprived of oxygen long enough to momentarily shut down, hence the blackout. theres plenty of ways to do it, none more safe than others.
for goodness sakes go back to your doctor kiddo, like every single person here in your last 3 posts has told you to do

giving advice on brain cells, kinda ironic, you been token up lately? (sarcasm) : )

i have a 4.0 GPA, whats your point

Hey, you say your from the UK… ring NHS direct, the samaritans or search out “MIND”.

You can talk to all of these places. I know how you feel, i’ve self harmed before just because I wanted to be taken care of because I felt that if they didn’t I would die.

I have also had a different type of depression to you, since I was 13. I know how you feel with your family, my problems have caused my mom and dad to get depressed too and its all my fault (i’m 20 btw).

So what is it that going to hospital will do for you? You know if you feel that you cannot cope you could go and check yourself in and say you don’t feel that you can cope at home right now and you will self harm if you do. They can help you out.

Why have you come off your medication?

my parents now know i have not been taken my meds but i am still continueing to not take them,im feelin lots better now so thank you to everyone for you help,much appreciated
x
thank you again

Well done. :)

Take care of yourself. x

I second Mumstheword - take really good care of yourself. Glad you feel much better - keep that feeling close:)

well done, your welcome, take care :)

Honestly listening to instruments can calm you down. Try listening to water music it is very nice.