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The first time this has happened was when I was younger I just got mad I was so angry that I hurt someone I hit him.

And now that I’m older I’ve done this a time or two. I don’t beat the crap out of anyone! I hurt hit them but then when I realize I hit them I just walk away because I can’t believe I let myself get that angry! Most the time I stay away from things that make me upset and that works… I just want to know why to I get so mad it doesn’t happen all the time just every once and a great while and what can I do to stop it. I don’t want to hurt people ever! But it’s like they know everything that pisses me off and that’s what they want.

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 133 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

take some anger management courses, you NEED to get this under control or you are going to seriously hurt someone one day

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

When you feel anxiety you have two choices: fight/flight. It sounds like you probably repress (flight) your anger until it becomes too much and then you fight.

The problem is you seem to take things personally. You have to learn to say this over and over to yourself (works for me): It’s not about me.

That’s right. Everyone does everything because of their own hopes and fears. Everything. Nothing to do with you. It’s their fear of being judged or looking silly or whatever. It’s not about you. Never has been, never will be. Rejection? Nope. It’s them. Insults? Them. Everything is about them, not you.

Realize that EVERYONE feels those strong feelings. You have to learn to put a gap between feelings something and what you do about it. The right thing is a lot of deep breathing and reminding yourself it’s not about you. Focus on having a great day regardless of what happens… because whatever happens is just a circumstance. Your day depends on how you handle it.

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