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I think I need to break up with my boyfriend.

The problem is he really likes me and I don’t want to hurt him but this relationship just isn’t making me happy like it used to. I don’t know what to do cause I feel like if I break up with him I’ll be being selfish.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

What you are afraid of is that YOU will feel bad to watch him be upset because you’ll feel awkward and guilty. Don’t be such a coward. Make your decision, communicate it, and stick with it.

And if you truly wonder what went wrong, read “Men, women & relationships” by John Gray to see how chemistry works.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Dump him! You’re not happy you’re not happy. What can you do? Nothing.

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brian3400 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Well, if you aren’t happy - leading him on is more selfish. Nobody likes living a lie! If you can fix it, do so. If you can’t, break up with him. Practically everybody alive has been in a relationship they don’t want to be in, it’s not nice, theres no easy way out, get it over and done with and try not to get into the situation again. ie think carefully before you get into a relationship!

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

If you think you can hide your unhappiness, you’re fooling yourself. There is no relief like the relief that comes from some chick who’s mixed up and finally says it’s over. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Of course she usually gets upset when you find a girl who’s not mixed up within the week, but hey, that’s life.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Better to be honest and break up than lie and stay with someone you have no feelings for. Do it now before it’s too late it’s not like you have 3 kids together… do you?

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1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 hours, 7 minutes after post)

No, no kids. I think that I don’t want to break up with him because I will feel bad and I’m afraid that our mutual friends won’t like me if I break up with him, but I just need to get over it and break up with him cause it’s not working for me.

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