Relationship help…

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Relationship help…

Alright, so when it comes to relationships, I completely fail. I never get what to do when to do it, should I make some kind of move, what am I supposed to do or say, stuff like that. I’m in high school and I really don’t have any experience that counts with any of this stuff. One or two attempts at relationships that died within a week. So right now I’m going out with this girl who I went to the school dance with last weekend. Not a ton happened, we made an attempt to dance together (which is really hard to do considering the type of music they were playing the whole time) and we hugged a little at the end and that was about it.

So my question is how do I know when to make some sort of move or how to do it, Where should I go with this relationship from here?

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mountaingrl 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

I don’t think you need to be putting so much pressure on yourself. Are you really really into these girls?

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mountaingrl 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Also…and this is something I didn’t realize until I was in my twenties (I know that sounds crazy, but I tended to have issues): not every encounter or date is supposed to turn into a relationship.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

mountaingrl wrote:
I don’t think you need to be putting so much pressure on yourself. Are you really really into these girls?

Hmm, true, I can’t say really really really into this girl, I haven’t known her that long, but I like her. And I guess there is a lot of pressure on me from friends and other people like that

Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

tell me, who is the most important person in your life right now?

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Richard Cor de Lyon wrote:
tell me, who is the most important person in your life right now?

Hmm, that’s actually a really hard question. Well, there’s not really a whole lot of people in my life right now, and nothings really happening other than this, so probably this girl?

mountaingrl 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

I think it’s great that you like her…and maybe there is potential for it to be more than a “general liking,” but you certainly don’t need to feel like a failure in relationships just because you aren’t making moves on her, or if the relationship hasn’t developed into something significant overnight.

I say just take it easy and don’t get overly involved with anyone until you are really compelled to. Seriously, the last thing you want to do it knock up someone who you aren’t head over heels in love with.

I have a kid. TRUST ME on that one.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Anonymous wrote:

Richard Cor de Lyon wrote:
tell me, who is the most important person in your life right now?

Hmm, that’s actually a really hard question. Well, there’s not really a whole lot of people in my life right now, and nothings really happening other than this, so probably this girl?

Then you need to spend more time with yourself. One reason your relationships don’t go anywhere is because you are trying to mold yourself into someone your partner wants… you’re not being yourself. The most important person in your life, should be YOU.

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