Love help: how can love turn to hate so quickly?

ATearFromHeaven

how can love turn to hate so quickly?

we were getting along great but then i had to go out that night, we talked for hours on yahoo but kept losing connection, this is part of our convo

nikki (02/10/2009 17:21:54): whats happening?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:22:29): nothing happened
nikki (02/10/2009 17:22:39): oh so you didnt want to talk?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:23:09): why r u always like this? go away if u dont wanna talk
nikki (02/10/2009 17:23:21): im not i just dont know why you went
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:23:41): i lost conn, that’s what u wanna hear
nikki (02/10/2009 17:23:45): ok
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:24:39): i got aot of frens n i find to talk to u everyday n u still r not satisfied
nikki (02/10/2009 17:24:59): i am i just wondered what happened
nikki (02/10/2009 17:26:44): talk to me plz
nikki (02/10/2009 17:27:30): come on i gotta go soon
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:27:44): ok
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:27:50): i’ll seeya trw then
nikki (02/10/2009 17:27:54): why?
nikki (02/10/2009 17:28:06): i want to talk to you
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:28:41): i m talking to u, u keep some frens too n u’ll understand me better
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:28:50): what i do to talk to u alone
nikki (02/10/2009 17:28:52): i do understand
nikki (02/10/2009 17:29:02): and i love you for it
nikki(02/10/2009 17:30:00): plz
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:30:39): what?
nikki (02/10/2009 17:30:53): i just want to talk to you
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:33:14): just lost my mood n i got frens i m talking to
nikki (02/10/2009 17:33:22): ok fine
nikki (02/10/2009 17:33:47): you talk to them
nikki (02/10/2009 17:34:18): you really hurt me
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:34:35): yeah who knows who hurt whom
nikki (02/10/2009 17:35:02): i didnt mean anything nasty or anything like that, i was just wondering what happened
nikki (02/10/2009 17:36:40): i love you, i wouldnt have waited all that time if i didnt, ust know that
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:37:03): yeah ok
nikki (02/10/2009 17:49:36): not gonna talk to me again?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:50:09): when did i say that
nikki(02/10/2009 17:50:21): you didnt i just thought maybe you didnt
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:50:51): well u think what suits you
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:51:02): i never said it
nikki(02/10/2009 17:51:18): are you gonna talk to me now then?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 17:52:33): i m talking
nikki (02/10/2009 17:53:02): i love you
nikki (02/10/2009 18:09:33): we shouldnt go to bed on an argument
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:09:53): i never argue nor do ilke it
nikki (02/10/2009 18:10:00): are we cool then?
nikki (02/10/2009 18:11:04): so we’re not?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:11:40): yeah
nikki (02/10/2009 18:11:50): which one?
nikki (02/10/2009 18:12:34): im really trying here
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:13:34): hey i m talking to other frens too, n i m slow at typing
nikki (02/10/2009 18:13:53): ok, but i really have to go, i just want to make sure were ok first
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:14:26): i m ok
nikki (02/10/2009 18:14:33): you love me?
nikki (02/10/2009 18:15:35): so we’re not that cool then?
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:15:52): i m not in the mood
nikki (02/10/2009 18:16:13): ok fine, im going now, i love you, i always will, have fun
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:16:27): u too
nikki (02/10/2009 18:16:43): yeah, im gonna have a great time now
nikki (02/10/2009 18:17:06): seeya
Cowboy (02/10/2009 18:17:15): see you

he hasnt talked to me since friday, hes just being ignoring me. what should i do? i dont know wether to leave it and let him contact me or to try and contact him. im scared ive lost him

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bexsphillip 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

the answer within u
r u wondering about it?
if u want to u shuld talk to him and see if his okay
but dont leave loads of messages tempting i know
he will like u tryed to get hold of him
his just sulk ing

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ATearFromHeaven 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

yeah maybe but the thing is hes been online pretty much constantly, i tried to avoid leaving him messages and i didnt yesterday, but he just wont talk to me. i feel like he wants to talk to everyone elses except me. maybe hes having a hard time but i wish he would tell me about it, i love him and just want to help him.

i just got him back and now this is tearing me up

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Legion 81 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

ATearFromHeaven wrote:
yeah maybe but the thing is hes been online pretty much constantly, i tried to avoid leaving him messages and i didnt yesterday, but he just wont talk to me. i feel like he wants to talk to everyone elses except me. maybe hes having a hard time but i wish he would tell me about it, i love him and just want to help him.

i just got him back and now this is tearing me up

That or he’s suddenly become a bastard, my instinct tells me to wait from him to contact you. But i’ve been at a point where i acted like that, and i ended up being in therapy for 6 months “Reasons you can gues”.

So ask him whats up, and don’t take “Nothing” for an answer.

Legion.

bexsphillip 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

well he hasnt go any reason to avoid u
and it seems like his just being a *******
i know u dont want to loose him but maybe its time
u thought about the relationship and how he treats u
i think u should tell him and maybe threaten that ur leave and see if he starts talking

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SlightlyUnique 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

Hmm - 2 things

1) A relationship is based on communication - not just from one side, but from both - If you aren’t talking about what the problems is, the relationship really is not going to get very far, /especially/ if you haven’t met yet!

Long distance relationships need communication even more so than normal ones (i’m assuming there is distance involved, as you haven’t met him yet) - so, if you two can’t get said communication, there is little point in continuing…

The question i would have to ask is “why haven’t you met yet?”

2) Love doesn’t demand, it accepts - I have little extra to say than that - have a ponder :)

(oh, and it goes both ways :) )

ATearFromHeaven 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

SlightlyUnique wrote:
Hmm - 2 things

1) A relationship is based on communication - not just from one side, but from both - If you aren’t talking about what the problems is, the relationship really is not going to get very far, /especially/ if you haven’t met yet!

Long distance relationships need communication even more so than normal ones (i’m assuming there is distance involved, as you haven’t met him yet) - so, if you two can’t get said communication, there is little point in continuing…

The question i would have to ask is “why haven’t you met yet?”

yeah i know, thats what i keep saying

as for meeting, its hard for us, were not even on the same continent, im in the UK and hes in Thailand, its not just a couple of hours drive. he always says he has to cross an ocean to get to me but really its just a few miles and thousands of miles of land.

we planned to meet last may but then his job took away and he moved, now we plan to meet soon, that is when he was talking to me. honestly the whole thing, especially being away from him just keeps getting harder and harder, its starting to hurt

2) Love doesn’t demand, it accepts - I have little extra to say than that - have a ponder :)

(oh, and it goes both ways :) )

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lobokc 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (4 days, 8 hours after post)

Love turns to hate quickly when one party does something that deeply violates the respect and trust of the other individual.

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