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ok.

so big problem…that i wish i could keep ignoring.
my bf and I have been together for 10 years this december. yeah yeah yeah i know everyones reactions already.
believe me my family has killed any moment of engagement or wedding by putting way too much pressure. (mexican catholic family)
well D and i got married last year without telling anyone. We did it on our dating anniversary. We figured we’ve been celebrating that date for so long, why change it. We also wanted to enjoy ourselves without dealing with family drama. ( of course we’re actually probably creating more)
it’s now october…and well, we still havent told anyone.
of course our GREAT idea is to save up for a destination wedding and we would foot the bill for both sides of our family. immediate family only. it’s about 17 people. we’re still saving, and it may just be a while before that wedding actually comes.

so how do we tell our families that we’re married…and tell them our “forgive us” plans?

ok ok ok and YES OF COURSE there are some details in there that are missing as far as background family things. i know how immature this all probably came out as i typed it. but if you have questions that would lead you to help me or give advice i’ll be happy to answer. there is only so much room I think i would be allowed to write for this… :)

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ok. so big problem…that i wish i could keep ignoring.
my bf and I have been together for 10 years this december. yeah yeah yeah i know everyones reactions already.
believe me my family has killed any moment of engagement or wedding by putting way too much pressure. (mexican catholic family)
well D and i got married last year without telling anyone. We did it on our dating anniversary. We figured we’ve been celebrating that date for so long, why change it. We also wanted to enjoy ourselves without dealing with family drama. ( of course we’re actaully probably creating more)
it’s now october…and well, we still havent told anyone.
of course our GREAT idea is to save up for a destination wedding and we would foot the bill for both sides of our family. immediate family only. it’s about 17 people. we’re still saving, and it may just be a while before that wedding actually comes.

so how do we tell our families that we’re married…and tell them our “forgive us” plans?

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