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I know I am going to sound like an awful person…

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but my boyfriend of 1 year has just been diagnosed with ADHD, been given meds, and it is really bothering me! He is 25 and has never been diagnosed for it before. He has survived just fine although now he says he is a lot happier. He runs around like a busy bee, and I just miss the way he was. I am not sure why this all bothers me… I am always struggling myself to be productive but I don’t take medication although I wish I had a quick fix too. Now I feel like a bum and even more awful for being disturbed that he has solved his problem. I guess a part of me feels like doctors overmedicate as it is, I loved him just fine before he was on medication, and now I feel like a lazy person who wishes I had some magic pills too. Do you know why this might be upsetting me? Perhaps I am misunderstanding the disorder?

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Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

adhd doesn’t really have anything to do w/ feeling lazy, it’s just a lack of attention. stimulants, however are a common form of treatment which is why he’s probably busy all of a sudden. i don’t know anyone w/ adhd(to my knowledge) so never really dealt w/ it in any way, but i can relate to wanting to be like someone who suddenly changed their attitude for whatever reason. you have to keep in mind since he’s on meds he might not feel like this forever(if he gets off them or they change them) which might leave him with a worse feeling of missing how he felt w/ these, etc. i can also understand that you liked him how he was before, and doctors probably do over medicate, but what can you do? don’t feel like a bum! try and find things you both enjoy and can do together. if you want a pickmeup you can do caffeine or maybe one of those 5hr energy drinks.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

if he is happier on the medication, who are you to not be happy for him? its his choice, not yours.
you sound insecure.if you cant get over it, let him go and be happy on his own.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

You actually sound like you are very happy for him!
but now youre feeling left behind and thats why your bummed, cause now you dont feel like your up to par with him?
you say you feel lazy, although I dont know any other symptoms you may have but would it be possible your suffering from depression and seeing your partner start buzzing around has increased your depressive feelings?

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