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Is it true that guys of this “type” are al players?

I don’t know why I seem to attract the type of guys that are extroverted, sociable, friendly, rather goodlooking and surrounded with female friends and female admirers but are always single. =/ They may or may not be players but they aren’t known to have “player” reputations, some of them quite the opposite in fact. I’m not exactly extroverted or loud or dropdead gorgeous. I’ve been er.. told that i’m nice and pretty but i really am not in the popular crowd though i love to socialise and do have my quiet moments.

A girlfriend was telling me that “there’s no such thing as a very friendly guy” as these kinds of guys I just described are conceited players who are only interested in leading girls on.

I totally disagree, because I think alot of girls like to stereotype these guys negatively but i could be wrong. What do you think? Have you met these types of guys which happen to be really nice?

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Keckers offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Errhmm.
Well my best guyfriend actually has those exact qualities.
Most of the time he’s got no idea in hell that he’s actually attracting a flock of wemenz.
…even when they’re blatantly flirting with him.
But he’s an idiot, does it count?
:D

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Ill tell you what: just cause a guy is handsome doesn’t mean that he has to be in a relationship at all times with some gorgeous girl. I am not trying to boast or anything, but I would consider myself this type of nice, blah blah type guy. I also tend to stay single the majority of time, not because I can’t get anybody to go out with me, but because most of the girls that have attraction towards me have simply that: just physical attraction towards me.

I don’t really care for seeing how many girls I can bang or how hot of a girl I can date. I am look for honest, faithful, beautiful, and down to earth type girls. These are hard to find, hence the being single most time. Girls who stereotype “these” type of guys have either had bad experiences or are just mad they can’t get the attention they want.

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1 month, 2 weeks ago (14 hours, 33 minutes after post)

TommyTom wrote:
Ill tell you what: just cause a guy is handsome doesn’t mean that he has to be in a relationship at all times with some gorgeous girl. I am not trying to boast or anything, but I would consider myself this type of nice, blah blah type guy. I also tend to stay single the majority of time, not because I can’t get anybody to go out with me, but because most of the girls that have attraction towards me have simply that: just physical attraction towards me.

I don’t really care for seeing how many girls I can bang or how hot of a girl I can date. I am look for honest, faithful, beautiful, and down to earth type girls. These are hard to find, hence the being single most time. Girls who stereotype “these” type of guys have either had bad experiences or are just mad they can’t get the attention they want.

what u said is really true tom. i’ve a guy friend like that too and he always complains abt not being able to find a decent girl cause most girls only go for him for his looks, and cause he’s “popular” and “cool” so they think its nice to be seen ard with him..hmm. i agree with the excessive negative stereotyping by these girls too, its all due to bad exp or just feeling slighted for not getting these guys’ attention.

actually the girls you’ve described, they do exist. i’m not bragging as well, but i do have some of the qualities you’ve listed. unfortunately these are the girls who are always, always single. the ones who get asked out or are attached are the really vain and superficial ones. ive ALWAYS thought guys liked these kinds, esp the “popular” ones, which is why i get really surprised when someone seemingly popular with the girls shows an interest in me…=/

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