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how do i act when i see her again?

its inevitable, im bound to bump in to my ex sooner or later, its been like 6 months now but im still completly heartbroken! its finally sunken in im never getting her back, but im still depressed and very angry! i dont know what to do, or how to act when i see her, my emotions are still all over the place,so im worried what im gona do when i bump in to her…..! should i ignore her? act like i didnt see her, just leave quicly….speak to her and be nice? speak to her and be angry…? have a go at her….? i just dunno i feel sick thinking about it! i loved the girl and she really did break my heart and lied to me! i know she world really like to know im ok and geting on, not for my sake but because i know she feels guilty and wants relif im ok, if that makes sense…! but im clearly not so…what do i do when i see…? any help would be great…

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

You have two issues.

1. grief: you have to let yourself go through denial, anger, regrets and depression before you can accept your loss. journal out your feelings. write them out as letters to her. write to yourself: warning signs you ignored, problems the two of you had. you will get better as you are honest with yourself about the lack of compatibility between you two (denying a lack of compatibility is simply the denial stage of grief)

2. anxiety: the more you think of meeting her and how she will judge you the more anxious you will get. the way to deal with anxiety is to face your fears. things are never as bad as you expect. in fact, you suffer far more from your anxiety than you ever do in the actual situation.

basically your fear isn’t meeting her. your fear is she will see how hurt you are and pity you.

well the hurt is NOT from her. yeah, she lied etc etc. but the hurt is from the loss you had of a fantasy: the two of you together being happy in the longterm. when that fantasy crumbled, you experienced grief. you must deal with the grief and focus on improving your relationship skills and moving ahead.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 130 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Grow a pair and face the music. The more you avoid her, the less you will be able to face when you actually face her.

Is she going to kill you? No! Then just face her and tell her you’re just fine and dandy, thank you.

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