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OhNoItDaPoPo91
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Need relationship help

Alright so there is this girl I like and she knows it. I have been friends with her since the start of school and have txted her alot during this time. She knows that ive liked her for about a month but she wont go out with me because ’she has never had a healthy relationship and cant love me the way I deserve until she loves herself.’ I dont know what to make of this. When I asked her if she liked me she said that its not a simple yes or no answer. Can I get some female opinions on this please cause I have no idea whats going on. This is my first attempt at a relationship so I have no idea what to do.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

It means no.

The more complicated the explanation from a girl, the more you are wasting your time pursuing it.

PS: Don’t text girls. Go up and talk to them face to face. Joke, be confident, have plans.

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Hardcorepinkponie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

Hey Hun. Just take a breath. Girls are very sensitive and need time to heal and they need emotional outlets. The best advice I can give u is to take the time to understand why shes hurt. I would let her talk to you, and ask her simple questions like why, when, where, and when she tells you her problems try not to say too much about urself. You will have time to tell her about urself in the future. I also have to warn u to restrain from putting all your effort into a girl and when you picture yourself with her think reasonably. Think about how long you think it will take before you run out of things to say to each other. Think about how often ur around her because the more you see someone the easier it is to get sick of them. But if ur never able to see her it will fill ur head with doubt about the possible things she could be doing behind your back. But once u know this girl like the back of your hand, if she still won’t date you, don’t waste your time. There’s a lot to learn About girls and you won’t know any of it by chasing after just one.
I hope you do well in school and I hope youre happy at the end of the day. Best of wishes.
- D. Rex

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OhNoItDaPoPo91 offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

The only times we text is when we arn’t together. I talk to her as much as possible but during the day if she has something to do we are always texting.

The problem I have with her is that she tells me she will hurt me, and that she is bad for me, while I tell her I don’t care what happens to me. Im just real real confused.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (9 hours, 31 minutes after post)

It means no.

Quite honestly, relationships are tough enough as it is. Find a girl who wants one. Don’t try to badger a girl into having one.

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (20 hours, 22 minutes after post)

if she’s telling you she will hurt you or that she is bad for you.. come on.. it’s pretty clear what she is trying to say. It’s better to leave it the way it is and not pursue her.. at least you can still be friends. If you are wondering what if she’s interested in the future? No worries she will come back and initiate.

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