divorce help: I am getting desperate: My wife is Bipolar and during episodes - Help.com

nothing wrong with you dude. im sorry to say, but thats america

unfortunately its the way the courts work, they cant just go on your word, they need to investigate.
if i were you, i would get a divorce lawyer involved, and try to speed up the divorce instead.
look for work. any work. absolutely anything. temp at your local labour force in the mean time.

Thanks. I already have a divorce lawyer. This is what he, the opposing lawyer and the judge came up with, despite him knowing that I was out of money.. Have been doing lots of other projects through Craigslist… and had to struggle to get any of them paid at all.. The economy makes people do really bad things.

join a temp agency that legally HAS to pay you. or get the money up front when you do jobs.
go back to the judge, and the lawyers, and tell them you simply dont have the money to do this up front.
try and set up some sort of payment plan for it, or ask about funding to get it.
tell the lawyer you would strongly prefer that the divorce just proceed as fast as possible instead.

Your daughter is priceless, and the damage poor mental health can wreck leaves scars.

Anonymous wrote:
Courtybubble: You really should STOP TREATING PEOPLE POORLY in these posts! They are simply trying to give GOOD QUALITY ADVICE. Again, you really should follow your OWN advice.

For the others who are actually trying to give INFORMATIVE CARING ADVICE, feel free to read the little argument between me and courty this evening. If it wasn’t for their blatant and disrespectful comments, I probably wouldn’t call them out on the fact that they are WRONG a good portion of the time. So take their advice with what you choose… my choice? A grain of salt. Feel free to pass on when you want to call them out on their BS. Some people here CARE and BELIEVE the advice they receive. It sucks to get not only poor and wrong advice, but to get SASS and DISRESPECTED in addition.

http://help.com/post/318671-birthcont…

dude ive seen this twice. cool down. thats good caring advice

Anonymous wrote:
Courtybubble: You really should STOP TREATING PEOPLE POORLY in these posts! They are simply trying to give GOOD QUALITY ADVICE. Again, you really should follow your OWN advice.

For the others who are actually trying to give INFORMATIVE CARING ADVICE, feel free to read the little argument between me and courty this evening. If it wasn’t for their blatant and disrespectful comments, I probably wouldn’t call them out on the fact that they are WRONG a good portion of the time. So take their advice with what you choose… my choice? A grain of salt. Feel free to pass on when you want to call them out on their BS. Some people here CARE and BELIEVE the advice they receive. It sucks to get not only poor and wrong advice, but to get SASS and DISRESPECTED in addition.

http://help.com/post/318671-birthcont…

and youre trying to convince me youre an adult, and not childish, yes?

Anonymous wrote:
Sorry and thank you. It just makes me upset to see innocent people who are trying to help being called idiots for no reason. I will let it go and leave ‘em alone. :) Again, sorry.

no worries dude happens to the best of us :)

good lord would you two get a room? This guy was asking about his thing, not yours

hey now, anon can get his own room, i didnt start this. just reported it ;)

Anonymous wrote:
Courtybubble: You really should STOP TREATING PEOPLE POORLY in these posts! They are simply trying to give GOOD QUALITY ADVICE. Again, you really should follow your OWN advice.

For the others who are actually trying to give INFORMATIVE CARING ADVICE, feel free to read the little argument between me and courty this evening. If it wasn’t for their blatant and disrespectful comments, I probably wouldn’t call them out on the fact that they are WRONG a good portion of the time. So take their advice with what you choose… my choice? A grain of salt. Feel free to pass on when you want to call them out on their BS. Some people here CARE and BELIEVE the advice they receive. It sucks to get not only poor and wrong advice, but to get SASS and DISRESPECTED in addition.

http://help.com/post/318671-birthcont…

This sounds like shout material… not reply material. Besides, as far as I can read, Courty was giving sound advice. If you have something to say to the poster stay it… if you have something to say to Courty, shout it to her. To the poster please forgive this little rant.

As far as your issue, all I can do is sympathize. I was nearly forced to do the same thing. Only difference was my ex was terrified of the psych eval, and caved at the mention of it. I personally liked Courtys advice and support that perspective. On top of all that Document. Document everything. And when you think you are done with your documentation… document some more. Anything you get in writing… save it. Make no verbal deals… all deals must be in writing, even an email is better than nothing.

Thank you all though for the advice. I will take from it and just take a deep breath, one day at a time, and survive. I really appreciate the help and support.

Anonymous wrote:
Thank you all though for the advice. I will take from it and just take a deep breath, one day at a time, and survive. I really appreciate the help and support.

well said, and very true. You’ll get through it, it’s very hard and sometimes even hard to get back up, there will always be something worth it… trust me. And what’s really cool; your daughter may not really understand everything now, but trust me, eventually she will. It can be hard waiting for that day, but when it comes… it’s worth it. Don’t talk bad about your ex to your daughter… she’ll learn all that on her own… and she really needs to unfortunately.

Thankfully I have been able to keep all of this away from my daughter. She is blissfully ignorant. I never talk bad about her mom, of course. I want her to have as normal a relationship with her as possible. My only issue is that I don’t dread to leave her behind with her, not knowing when her mom decides to go off the medication again and what the consequences will be for my daughter. I couldn’t bear to live if anything happened that I could have prevented, so I will fight till the last to protect her.

Thanks.

surely you could get child services involved somehow as the childs safety is at serious risk?