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Check out Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages”. Quite often we express love the way we want to receive it, which might not be in a way that someone else can “hear”. It’s not easy, since it involves learning to communicate love differently thn you are used to, but it can be very rewarding also, since your partner can also learn to express love in the way that YOU want to hear it.

In brief, the five love languages are:

Quality Time
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch, and
Words of affirmation.

Of course, their might be other issues to work on, but learning the way your husband wants you to say “I love you” and he learning the same about you can have a wonderful impact on your marriage.

That you what?

r u a Christian? My hubby and I prayed about things and that’s what started really making things better for us.

Well i would say for you to try to adjust and tell him to heck i love you and ur flaws and he should love u and ur flaws no one is perfect.
Try to talk it out and see wat sets the other off and try to minimize doing such things

gimli wrote:
Check out Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages”. Quite often we express love the way we want to receive it, which might not be in a way that someone else can “hear”. It’s not easy, since it involves learning to communicate love differently thn you are used to, but it can be very rewarding also, since your partner can also learn to express love in the way that YOU want to hear it.

In brief, the five love languages are:

Quality Time
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch, and
Words of affirmation.

Of course, their might be other issues to work on, but learning the way your husband wants you to say “I love you” and he learning the same about you can have a wonderful impact on your marriage.

some of what gimli is well good.im not highly religious but Physical touch and words of encouragement. and having quality time sounds like good steps to a good relation or restoration to one