father help: sometimes I wish someone would call the cops on my father. - Help.com

Just my opinion:
There is NEVER an acceptable excuse for a man to physically harm a child or a female. you will be doing him a huge favor in the long run by at the very least reporting it to someone in a position of authority. He should at the least be shown what it feels like to be held accountable for what he’s doing.

you should def let someone know about what is going on.. cause if it is happening now if nothing is done about it then it will just get worse..

if you really dont want to call the cops I think that you should tell him that you dont want to call the cops or tell someone at school but the next time it happens you have too. Not for yourself even but for your sister. You could also look for angry management classes and urge him to take them so you dont have to take further action

You need to be that someone for yourself and for your sister.

Does your mother know what has happened?

I agree with the other replies, really you NEED to tell someone. If you want someone to call the cops on your father, then it should be you. Right now it may seem tame enough to you, just a shake here and there and bruise now and then, but if you don’t act quickly, it could get worse and a LOT worse. You are well within your rights to report him, father or not. You may even be doing him a favor, because one day his temper may get the better of him and it may result in a lot worse than bruise for you or your sister. Call a confidential hotline if you are not comfortable outright reporting it at first. Talk to someone, it may help you figure out how to handle the situation better. You already took the first step by coming here and asking for help. I really hope that you have the strength to put a stop to this abuse before its too late. What your father is doing is flat out illegal. Please do the right thing and protect yourself and your sister. Keep up posted!

thats bullshi.t then your mom should be charged in endangering a childs life…..can you live with her? would that change your situation for the better?

i cant believe your mom is ignoring it especially if she went through it when they were married..but sweetie you should really do something about it before it is to late..it may be hard because it is your father but thats just not right….even if you feel more comfortable talking to a teacher if you attend school.. they will def help you….

My Father used to be abusive when he got angry at me till I was 14, one day my brother and I were messing around and my brother got hurt, my dad thought I did it on purpose so he pushed me against the wall and had his hand around my throat as I was dangling there with my feet off the ground. Another time he threw my cell phone at me and it hit me in my back, I had a bruise the shape of my cell phone. I can never forgive the things my Father has done to me but he’s changed, I am 20 now and he is in a better place without all his anger issues and we have a good relationship. I wished tho someone would take him away when I was younger but I never spoke to anyone about it and when I confronted my father he denies it. Talk to a guidance counselor at school and see what your options are, your father may never change like mine did and this can gradually get worse. Talk to someone asap! There is no excuse for him being abusive, your his child.

annie_cnn wrote:
i have told my boyfriend to tell his parents…it’s the only adults I can think of.

what about teachers, a boss/co worker , a neighbor coach… there is always someone

tell your teacher at school

well if nothing has been done since you told your boyfriend then you really need to talk to someone like a teacher or a counselor or maybe even your neighbor but you really need to do something…

annie_cnn wrote:
i have told my boyfriend to tell his parents…it’s the only adults I can think of.

If your serious about getting help you need to start taking pictures of your bruises, scars, bumps etc… I am sorry that your Mother chooses to ignore it, mine did too. Well it was good of you to have your boyfriend tell his parents, maybe they can get you some help.

annie_cnn wrote:

kathrynkurs wrote:

annie_cnn wrote:
i have told my boyfriend to tell his parents…it’s the only adults I can think of.

If your serious about getting help you need to start taking pictures of your bruises, scars, bumps etc… I am sorry that your Mother chooses to ignore it, mine did too. Well it was good of you to have your boyfriend tell his parents, maybe they can get you some help.

I have taken a picture of a minor bruise I had a couple weeks ago…its on my computer just in case.

There you go, see your on the right path. Just don’t wait this out, if your boyfriend’s parents won’t help you need to talk to someone else that can more so someone at your school.

Good luck! I know you’ll do the right thing!

Sounds like you’ve already recognized what needs to happen and thats the hardest part. I think kathrynkurs nailed it, your on the right path! Good job and good luck!