I have a boyfriend whom I love madly.

MandaDarlin'

I have a boyfriend whom I love madly.

We’ve been dating for almost two months. We met back in April and just clicked. We really connected. I already know I want to be with him for the rest of my life and I want to make him very happy. But in order to do that, I need fixing…

First and foremost, I have a serious anger problem. I’m seeking help, but it’s really hard to find a Psychologist who’ll accept my insurance. I thought I was managing it well until two days ago when I shoved him hard. He told me he was afraid I was going to hit him. I don’t want to be like this to him! I just don’t!

I’m also intimidated by his ex-girlfriend. They broke up about a year and a half ago, but are still really close friends. He talks to her a lot and she often asks him to hang out with her. He still has a lot of keepsakes and memories of her such as pictures, stuffed animals, cards, letters, and old clothes of hers. I want him to have friends, but she just makes me nervous.

I don’t ever want to lose him. He calls me a sweetheart and I want to feel like I am what he sees. What can I do? Help, please!

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htcmichael 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

MandaDarlin, please recognize that all anger is a call for help! Somewhere deep within you carry hurts and resentments that will ultimately deprive you of the happiness you seek unless you come to face them. Maybe you need professional help, but maybe not. Some honest time alone spent examining your inner self may lead you to discover what heavy baggage you sometimes carry. Look for what triggers your emotion, and deep dive from there.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 hours, 11 minutes after post)

OKAY! look honey! anyone wud be upset that the x is a little too close for comfort but you should let him know that this bothers you terribly…tell him as well that u r aware that u need help and work on it together. that way u can develop a binding bond between u two and remember that u have to really want to change and put effort into it…

Good luck!!

Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

Stop putting so much weight on making this work forever and try to make it work RIGHT NOW. Your putting a lot of hope and promise into this guy and you only met in APRIL. Thats not fair to the relationship or to him.

Yes, i’m sure its love and all, but you need to calm down and step back to take a look at yourself. If you have trouble managing your anger than you need to find an outlet, a hobby or something to help you let steam off.

Also remember, some people take time to fall in love and get over things.

MandaDarlin' 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Stop putting so much weight on making this work forever and try to make it work RIGHT NOW. Your putting a lot of hope and promise into this guy and you only met in APRIL. Thats not fair to the relationship or to him.

Yes, i’m sure its love and all, but you need to calm down and step back to take a look at yourself. If you have trouble managing your anger than you need to find an outlet, a hobby or something to help you let steam off.

Also remember, some people take time to fall in love and get over things.

You really don’t get it, do you? He’s the one who expects the relationship to be long-term. Yes, I want to marry him, but I can’t help those feelings. Just because the relationship’s only been two months, I’m not going to expect it to fail. Plus, he’s pushing 30. He’s not exactly in it for a fling.

I AM stepping back and taking a look at myself. This is why I wrote this post. I can’t do a hobby every moment I get mad. I can’t just drop everything and start sewing or writing. I’m sorry, but a hobby wouldn’t do anything.

Get over things? As in, get over his girlfriend? Believe me, breaking up a year and a half ago, he’s had plenty of time.

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