Embarrassment help: I am confused with what to do in my current situation. - Help.com

Disowning him would be dumb. Hes your brother whether you like it or not. And one day you will need him. I have a brother way worse then yours and he has been there when i needed him. WHo cares what he dresses like. Why should it bother you so much? People shouldnt be so judgemental over clothing! Its ridickulous! Stop putting so much of your energy into hating him and being embarrased by him. Ge over yourself! Its not harsh, its completely pathetic.

You just look all the better when you’re with him. The look you see on people’s faces is pity that you have to put up with him.

Try to be nice.

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anyways, my 2 cts : he’s still your brother. he’s only a little older you said? so, from most of our perspectives, still young. sounds to me like another ‘confused’ teenager. you clearly seem to have more grip on life at this time, but times can change, but he still will be your brother. he might act like he doesn’t care, but this guy might just go stand in front of a bullet for you. do not underestimate family…

“He has began to date girls from my grade all the way to 8th grade, which would not be such a big deal if we were adults, but it is quite disgraceful when you are in high school.”

actually, it would be a bigger deal if he were an adult ;) nonetheless, this is something you might want to mention to your parents?

his reputation should not affect yours. when people ask or mention it, you can always go with ‘yeah, i know, but he’s still family’. you will get respected for this, maybe not by all, but surely by those who matter.

stick it out, i would say - in a few years, you will have your own life anyway - and see it from there. don’t burn any bridges you may still want to cross later…

Accept him for what he is - I am the same as you in many ways and my sister used to embarass me with her lackadasical attitude at school, but that is who she is - school isn’t everything, and personally, it is a great thing as your brother doesn’t care what other people think - people like him have no fear and will do whatever they want. You may not like it, but he is so different to you, you will never really know how his mind works or why he is like the is - he might just be going through a teenage period of confusion.

patricklamber wrote:
“He has began to date girls from my grade all the way to 8th grade, which would not be such a big deal if we were adults, but it is quite disgraceful when you are in high school.”
actually, it would be a bigger deal if he were an adult ;) nonetheless, this is something you might want to mention to your parents?

I meant the age gap Gynan. Such as 3 or 4 years apart.

it was a joke, patrick - noticed the smiley?

also, an unwritten, yet generally accepted rule between friends (brothers incl) : you don’t stand each other up, unless it’s for a girl ;) [notice the smiley again?]

sounds to me like your brother is going through an ‘emo’ phase (from what i gather) - this too shall pass. and the point of the guys above this can also be made: you’re the one not accepting people for who they are. tolerance is key to a peaceful life. unless they are hurting other people or themselves, you should let people be who they want to be. you don’t have to like them. you don’t even have to associate with them. but acceptance is not too much to ask.

Sounds as though he is dressing like a BMXer, which is how my youngest son dress’s. Those clothes aren’t cheap either. He sounds like a typical teenager having a good time in his life. Hopefully he pays more attention to his grades, other than that, hats off to him for having a good time.

I would be more concerned if he was laying across the bed depressed, or self medicating to hide emotions.

bookclu wrote:
get over yourself. Kudos to your bro for being his own person. would it be equally as odd if you dated a Sr. boy? And maybe he is embarrassed of you as well. Love your brother for who he is b/c in you alienate him now it could forever change how you two will interact. Learn to except people for who they are and life will be much easier for you. Otherwise you seem sad and unintelligent

See. This is what i mean by pathetic. It is and i dont relly care if you see it like this or not. I was not wrong in saying it because like i told you, i am in the same situation with my brother but it is far worse. But you blanked that. You posted this question and have gotten the same answer for the most part. Stop spending your entire life being obsessed with your brother who you seem to dispise. I never thought i would need myu brothers help but he shows it in unique ways. ANd yes i give him props for being his own person which is more then any of us can say for you.

Learn to love not hate. Get OVER yourself and leanr to life your own dang life! Your parents would be appaled if they saw that you wrote this. Whether you think they would or not. My mom hated seeing me and my brother fight but she always knew i was right.

grnb wrote:
Sounds as though he is dressing like a BMXer, which is how my youngest son dress’s. Those clothes aren’t cheap either. He sounds like a typical teenager having a good time in his life. Hopefully he pays more attention to his grades, other than that, hats off to him for having a good time.

I would be more concerned if he was laying across the bed depressed, or self medicating to hide emotions.

Exactly! Be more worried if he is acting out in anger. Not enjoying his life in what ever fashion he likes. If your parents dont mind then give it up. Be YOUR OWN PERSON! Stop worrying about him and just live your life. OK?