school help: I have a crush on one of my students. - Help.com

What you should do is find a 23-year-old boyfriend and leave the 16-year-old alone. Unless you’re stupid and want to go to prison, it really is that simple.

Leave the 16 year old boy alone. It’s illegal. You can find a boy your age. Just don’t pick on one of your students.

Well, you have two choices as far as I can see:
1. Pursue this crush. Tell the kid you like him or flirt with him in some way. Give him special attention, try and form a relationship. This will more then likely result in you losing your job, your ability to ever teach again, and possibly criminal charges.

2. Realize that just because someone is cute and you have an attraction to them, it doesn’t have to mean anything. This kid is a kid and it would not only be immoral for you to have a relationship with him, it would be illegal. You better hope this kid doesn’t know you like him because that could send things in a really wrong direction. It doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend, you are not a teenager and you are not allowed to date him. If you are going to work with kids you have to be more mature then they are and that mean controlling your feelings and actions.

What that guy said.

Ffff don’t touch please….

that’s just sick dude

Hey, there’s no reason to attack the person who wrote this. She asked for help on a help website. Yeah, I think we’ve all made it pretty clear that a 23 year old teacher wanting to date a 16 year old student isn’t appropriate and could lead to horrible consequences, but there’s no reason to be cruel or rude. People come to this site for help with all kinds of struggles and problems. Just because you don’t have the same issue doesn’t mean you’re any better or worse or that this person is any better or worse then you.

JoJo wrote:
Hey, there’s no reason to attack the person who wrote this. She asked for help on a help website. Yeah, I think we’ve all made it pretty clear that a 23 year old teacher wanting to date a 16 year old student isn’t appropriate and could lead to horrible consequences, but there’s no reason to be cruel or rude. People come to this site for help with all kinds of struggles and problems. Just because you don’t have the same issue doesn’t mean you’re any better or worse or that this person is any better or worse then you.

Honestly I’d probably sympathize with her if she didn’t make it sound like she wants to actually pursue a relationship with the kid.

I’m not attacking, I’m just saying it’s wrong for a 23 y/o woman to even be attracted to a 16 y/o kid, especially a teacher.

I probably over reacted, but it just seems like saying things like “that’s just sick dude” is not really going to give her any help or encourage her to seek help. I know if I had a problem that I really wanted advice on, I wouldn’t open up or be open to hearing what someone said after a comment like that. I just think we need to remember that everyone has different struggles and different reasons for their struggles. There may be a reason that this young woman is struggling with this issue and maybe that needs to be looked at as well as just telling her she is wrong.

well frankly i agree with keckers, she makes it sound like she wants to be in a relationship with him. even if she was attracted to the kid she ought to know as an employed educationist ( firefox says that’s a word so i’m going with it )
that going out with a student is illegal she sounds like a teenage girl asking if she should chase Bobby Brewsky the linebacker

I’m definitely not arguing with you and I’m not going to reply again unless the person who posted comes back because I want her to be able to talk, but haven’t you ever known something was wrong and still struggled with it? Hasn’t there been anything in your life that brought out your immaturity? I know I’ve made a lot of stupid mistakes and had a lot of stupid temptations, so when someone is struggling with something that sounds stupid to me, I try to be understanding. At least this young lady is seeking help and advice of some kind. Hopefully she will find the help she needs whether it’s here or with a professional.

you will simply have to wait 2 more years until he is out of school
then you can jump on him.

I think if you have to ask what to do, you’re really not qualified to teach. :( I understand that you might have those feelings, but at your age you really should know the answer is to back off, avoid contact and squelch ‘em as fast as you can.

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Sorry, but you’ll have to wait. I hear stories like this on the news, and they always end up with someone getting hurt or sent to court (I live in the UK - this sort of thing comes up every now and then)