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My best friend was being physically abused at home.

I was scared when she told me and so I told the Dean of Students. She said she’d take it from there and I would be an ananomous resource, but my friend found out. She isn’t speaking to me and is avoiding me at all costs. I’ve tryed emailing her, just to say hi, but she won’t reply. I’m really confused and I feel really alone.

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ZeroSum offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

:( I understand. You didn’t know what to do and you meant well. I would feel helpless in your situation too and would have probably done the same. It’s not your fault. You just wanted to help.. What did you say in the emails?

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littlenick online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

You should apologize for meddling in her business but since you know she was being abused you should tell her that you felt obligated to tell someone of authority so she could be helped.

Tell her you are very worried about her and love her very much and would hate for any harm to have come to her had you kept your mouth shut.

Just apologize and let her know you care.

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1 month, 2 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

Did you just write the other post on here about the Mom making her steal the credit cards?

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MeeH_KayLee offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

Tell her that your trying to help her. I know you meant well. Well tell her that. Tell her that i just want to help, i mean your being abused. Tell her you care.

You are just worried about her. At least you got help.

Ask her why she is mad.

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aryan.ourpcgam offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 41 minutes after post)

just realize her that you did that for her welness. email her about it and say sorry to her if she hurt. send an email daily to her with a rose greeting. one day she will definately talk to you . ( Idea by Gandhi Ji)

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Niche offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 56 minutes after post)

First you need to find out why she is not talking to you. It may have nothing to do with your telling the dean

If it is because of this though, you need to apologize to her. What she told you was confidential. She probably told you to off load. If she wanted to tell the dean, she could have done this herself. I think it is the betrayal of confidence that she may be upset over this incdent

Apologize and if she accepts the apology, try not to do it again

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elliotniqu offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 days, 17 hours ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

What do you do if a friend is being physically abused, the mother is abused and by getting help the father strikes out even more violently. The mother is too scared to stand-up for either herself or the child and I can’t tell authorities because I’m afraid they’ll get seriously hurt. She’s reaching out for help and I don’t know how to help her. She can’t move out - no relatives plus schooling is being paid by her parents, last time it was reported the father changed schools and she thinks it’s her fault!!!

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