what's the motive help: My Dad is 68 and single. - Help.com

Keep an eye on him. She might be leading him on so he thinks that he’s got a chance with her. She might want to use him to pay off her debts and then once the debts are paid she will tell him to sod off.

Be alert!

Wow, it sounds like you have some reasons to be suspicious, but it also sounds like you are very loving and very protective so you may be jumping to conclusions. There really is no way to know what her motives are or whether she is hiding something unless you get some more information. Have you talked to your dad about your concerns? One things is, she might not be very open if she is shy and they haven’t been dating very long. How long have they been together? How do you know she has credit card debt? That seems like personal information someone wouldn’t share really easily.

She might have another boyfriend whom she’s trying to bilk also? The whole things sounds fishy. She’s probably trying to set your dad up for the big bite and once he bites, she will pull him and skin him alive.

Again, stay very alert!

Sounds like a mousy and willy woman!

Ok, three months doesn’t sound like marriage time, but probably enough time to get to know each other a bit. First of all, I wouldn’t be afraid of discussing things with your dad because you might influence him. He is a grown man and he has thought and opinions of his own and he can make his own decisions. Being open with him gives him a chance to get someone else’s point of view in case he’s missing something which is pretty common when someone is dating. It does sound a little off to me that she is discussing her debt with your dad already. Typically not a beginning of the relationship discussion. She may be going after your dad for money, she may just be very shy and insecure, she may really love your dad and your not seeing the whole story. No matter what the situation is, keep honest and open communication going on with your dad. It’s going to help your relationship stay strong no matter what happens with this woman.

hm…i think that’s nice he has you to watch out for him. i second the keeping an eye out just in case. i don’t really think the working at a bank and having credit card debt are related though, ’cause come one, everyone uses their credit cards!?! might work out better for her than getting a loan from the bank and owing them instead. if you know where she lives maybe you can do a driveby? just to check her out…i would >.>…

I know your dad is not that old, but if she uses him for his money she can end up in the can for elder abuse.