relationship help: How to talk to a guy you are interested in but have no way of starting a conversation?

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How to talk to a guy you are interested in but have no way of starting a conversation?

So there is a guy that I see at the college gym almost EVERY time I go to workout. And for some reason, he is the only guy I find attractive at the gym that I want to talk to. It started off as just finding him attractive and now I feel like I’m “looking” or waiting for him whenever I’m at the gym. And when I do see him, it makes my day instantly! :-)

So I at least want to be able to just have a casual conversation with him whenever I see him at the gym, but I don’t know how to start. I just find him attractive only, so I want to find out if he is at least not a communication major (since I see him at the gym like every time I go, and seems like he goes every day), and that he is at least a junior, has a good personality (and teeth haha), and doesn’t have a girlfriend…I don’t necessarily want to go out on a date or whatever with him yet, whatsoever.

Personal observation: I assume that he is a science major or at least engineering major of some sort since I saw him at the study hall in the science department once. I once saw him taking out some note cards and studying while on elliptical so I’m thinking he’s at least not communications major (But this was just once and I’ve never seen him outside of the gym ever). Also, he doesn’t seem to be looking around or “checking-out” other girls like I notice (or sense) with other guys which makes me think that he has a girlfriend. But, since I’ve seen him come to work out at like 6 or 7pm on Friday, I’m thinking he maybe doesn’t have one? LoL. Also, I assume he’s not a freshman because he doesn’t look like one and have seen him come to the gym to workout throughout the summer.

How do I naturally start a conversation or find out the “minimum requirements” I look for in a guy before I even send the hint that I find him attractive?

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Eddieee 372 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Just wait in line for the machine he is using. When he is done say Hi and smile. If you keep this up day after day he will get the hint ;)

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

thanks Eddieee! I’ll try that since I’ve used machines that were right next to him numerous times…

Hangovercity55 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

If you are that interested in him, you should definatly talk to him. A great way is to ask a question. Even if it’s one you already know, just don’t make it odvious that you already know it. It can be related to the gym, or something not related to the gym, like, how to drive stickshift. My dad drove stickshift since he was 15, and when he met my mom at age 17, he asked her to “teach” him how to drive stickshift. It’s a great way to get to know someone having them firsthand teach you something. Or you could keep it simple and ask him about something you honestly don’t know about that is related to the gym, but it’s all up to you. Good luck.

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Eddieee 372 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

I hope it works out for you both. :)

Anonymous wrote:
thanks Eddieee! I’ll try that since I’ve used machines that were right next to him numerous times…

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Hangovercity55 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Eddieee wrote:
Just wait in line for the machine he is using. When he is done say Hi and smile. If you keep this up day after day he will get the hint ;)

I don’t know. If some girl came up to me and said “hi and smile”, i would be a little creeped out. jk, i know what you mean.

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Eddieee 372 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

If a picture is a thousand words…A smile is a thousand pictures ;)

Hangovercity55 wrote:

Eddieee wrote:
Just wait in line for the machine he is using. When he is done say Hi and smile. If you keep this up day after day he will get the hint ;)

I don’t know. If some girl came up to me and said “hi and smile”, i would be a little creeped out. jk, i know what you mean.

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Hangovercity55 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Eddieee wrote:
If a picture is a thousand words…A smile is a thousand pictures ;)

Hangovercity55 wrote:

Eddieee wrote:
Just wait in line for the machine he is using. When he is done say Hi and smile. If you keep this up day after day he will get the hint ;)

I don’t know. If some girl came up to me and said “hi and smile”, i would be a little creeped out. jk, i know what you mean.

Or if it’s my smile, it’s worth much more than a thousand pictures.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Hangovercity55 wrote:

Eddieee wrote:
If a picture is a thousand words…A smile is a thousand pictures ;)

Hangovercity55 wrote:

Eddieee wrote:
Just wait in line for the machine he is using. When he is done say Hi and smile. If you keep this up day after day he will get the hint ;)

I don’t know. If some girl came up to me and said “hi and smile”, i would be a little creeped out. jk, i know what you mean.

Or if it’s my smile, it’s worth much more than a thousand pictures.

Well, I think smile is good but how do you do it without creeping out that person? I agree with both of you, so I wanna know how to make it work Eddieee. The gym is kind of a sensitive place to just smile and say hi to a guy, I feel like. Wouldn’t you think so? I can see it to be okay in like say, the library or even like the study hall as you pass…well, I’m pretty open minded so I don’t think I’d find it creepy if someone smiles and said hi to me at the gym or wherever.

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